(Closed) Kid Worries

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Maybe think about why being a ‘young’ mum is so important to you. Come up with a list of pros and cons, dec ide what your pririties are in terms of teh way you envision yourself and then make your decision based on that, Truthfully if you are just starting a business, I’m not sure why waiting a year to get established would make a big difference.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i don’t understand the whole “young mom” thing. Is it because you want to be finished and enjoy your late 40’s? you think you won’t have enough stamina? I agree with PP. List out your reasons and then decide.

As someone who had a baby this year  (EDIT)waiting a year to get established IS a good idea. You are going to need time off for maternity leave, and not to mention up all night and exhausted all day. having a child is a huge, life altering, bring you to your knees kind of adjustment and it needs to be your primary focus if you are in the position to plan ahead.

I’m 34. Darling Husband and I are very well off financially, and have a lot of extras, and it is STILL hard and exhausting. it isn’t like babysitting your nephew or something. You are taking care of the child 24/7 for the rest of your life. I know you know this, but until you have one, you don’t really know.

And also-pregnancy will rock you. The first trimester blows and you are going to want to throw up and nap often. Which doesn’t mix well with starting a new business. Sorry to be a Debbie Downer, but wanting to be a young mom just isn’t enough of a reason to have a baby if you are doubtful

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

I totally understand where you’re coming from. I’m 25 and hubs is 27. We live in a super expensive area and know that I wouldn’t be able to stay at home here. So, for us to have a baby, we have to move. That’s fine on its own. Hubs has a job he absolutely loves… and has the opportunity to seriously profit from in the next few years. I would love to be a young mom, too, and I feel that clock is ticking fast– but it’s just not the right time for us. We could support a baby now, but I want to stay home for 3-4 years and I want to own our home. So… we’re revisiting this conversation in 2-3 years.

If oops happens, we’d be thrilled, though.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t have kids but I have a lot of friends who had oops babies young (or sometimes planned ones!) and most of them are continuing their career path, although theirs is more structured (like going to school/becoming a radiation tech, vs you starting your own business which takes more time). I don’t think your kid needs a house with a yard, or that it will necessarily ruin your business, and I’m always surprised when people feel guilty for that because so many happy healthy kids are raised in apartments! I DO think, like PPs, you should just evaluate why exactly you want a baby right now vs. the physical and emotional toll it will take on you, keeping your budding career in mind. Then make a plan and go for it – just be prepared for the effort it will take to balance it all 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@kate169: We aren’t yet to the stage of TTC, heck, we aren’t even married yet! But I do understand your desire to be a young mom. I had my daughter at 20, and I if Fiance and I decide to have more, it’ll be in the next few years. I don’t want to have kids after I’m 30.

Is waiting 7 months going to make you more stable then you are now? Is waiting 12? Will you be more financially stable then? A yard is not a requirement to have a child. Sure it’s great to have one, but it’ll be a few years before they would even be able to enjoy it. Until then? There’s the park and lots of other outside places to enjoy that you don’t have to own. Just an idea to think about.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@kate169: Yeah I was born into an apartment on a military base buuuut all of my childhood memories are in rented houses. But really, how much space does a kid need? I lived in houses with pools, houses without pools, houses with lots of space in the backyard and fences and houses without. It was all the same to me, if we didn’t have a house we could play at we went to the park, the community pool, or a friend’s! 🙂 Plus the kids in my apartment complex have a grand time in our community areas judging by the amount of noise they make haha

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@kate169: it’s hard for me to understand because it isn’t something I ever thought about. I was’t insulting you or anything. I hope you don’t think that.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@kate169: That is funny. Although I started posting in 2008 when I was engaged. I don’t post that much even though I feel like I do!

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