Post # 1
So, I kind of have a weird dilema that I’m hoping the Bees can offer me advice on.
My husband and I bought our house two years ago. At that time, we hadn’t even been really thinking kids, but now we are, and I’m starting to hate our house. It has three bedrooms, which is great, but the two non-master bedrooms are totally different sizes! (The master bedroom is also a different size). The two bedrooms that we would use for our kids is drastically different in size. Ideally, we want to have two kids close in age, and I figure they can share a room for a while, but at some point, I know they’ll each want their own bedroom and then I don’t know what to do.
To give you an idea, one bedroom is 11′ x 14′ and the other one, although an odd shape, is essentially 12′ x 20′. See my problem?? One bedroom is practically twice as large as the other! I don’t see how I could possibly allow one kid to have the larger bedroom and have it be fair!
Does anyone else have this issue? How did you deal with it? I know I don’t really have to deal with this for a while since my two kids will be able to share the larger bedroom for a few years, but at some point, I’m going to have to deal with it, and I’d rather have a plan now. If you have any advice, I’d love to hear it!
Post # 3
Haha don’t worry about it. My house growing up was the same way, and when my mom decided it was time to move her office out of the small room and give my sister and I our own rooms, I was the oldest and jumped at the chance to move out of the bigger room. I saw the bigger room as the “kids” room and was psyched to have the chance to furnish and paint a “new” room for myself. Plus the “new” room was colder all the time, because it was smaller, which was definitely a HUGE plus for me (this is a year-round issue in Florida). You will probably find that this is an issue that will solve itself, especially if you let the kid that chooses the smaller room get a new furniture set ;o)
Post # 4
We had different sized rooms growing up and 3 kids. I was the youngest, so I got the smallest. I just always accepted it, it never really bothered me.
Post # 5
Ha! I’m the oldest and got the small room, since the big one was right across from my parent’s bedroom. It didn’t really bother me until high school, when I staged a coup and forced my sister to trade me for the bigger room : ) It seemed fair, she had had it for 10 years by then and she took it back four years later, when I went off for college.
Post # 6
As my Dad used to say to me “Nobody promised you life would be fair”.
When the time comes , it might not be a problem at all as the kids may decide themselves. If they don’t, do a draw and the results determine who gets which room.
Post # 7
Thank you all for your advice! It has definitely helped! My brother and I always had same-size bedrooms, so I never knew what it was like for one kid to have a larger bedroom than the other, so I wasn’t sure what I’d do! Thanks again!
Post # 8
Our bedrooms are closer in size than yours but we’re making the smallest one the nursery and it will remain the nursery. If we have more than one kid and we’ll move the oldest out.
Depending on the age difference it may not matter as much but you could always make the larger of the two a bedroom/playroom so both the kids can use it. Or you could do it like a sorority and have one room (the smaller one) be the room where they sleep and the larger one where they play.
Post # 9
I always had the smaller room and I was the oldest. But, alot of the had to do with the fact that my sisters are twins and had to share a room. For years all 3 of us where is a room smaller than my apartment bedroom now and we didn’t think anything of it. It was all we knew! Of course, when we moved and suddenly there were 3 bedrooms instead of 1, I got the bigger one and each of the twins got their own smaller one. (seriously, my bedroom was HUGE! I think it was supposed to be a den with a door but oh well!)
Post # 10
I was the youngest and always had the smaller room. I never remembered it being a problem. My parents also used to say that “life isn’t fair” when something like that came up.
Post # 11
Remind the youngest that his college savings has had longer to accrue interest and grow, so that makes up for the smaller room ;-). But seriously, even the smaller room is still a good size – larger than the secondary rooms ever are where I live, so I wouldn’t worry about it!
Post # 12
The oldest gets the bigger room. When they move out or go to college, child #2 can get the bigger room.
I shared a room with my sister until I graduated college and moved out. I would have killed for my own room, even a small one.
Post # 13
I was an only child so it was never a worry with me!
Here’s my situation to give you an idea.
I have a 9 year old boy and 2 step-daughters 2.5 and 6, and we’re expecting in October, Oy
Anyways the girls we have every other weekend so it isn’t such a full house all the time!
We actually just put an offer on a house today and I just ask our agent for the room measurements, this is a very small house but the rooms are all different.
2nd Bdrm – 9×10
3rd Bdrm – 11×9
4th – 11×11
The girls share a room with bunkbeds, and with the weird set-up (sliding glass door in the 4th) we’ll have to think about whether or not we put the baby in there too. Cameron will have his own room, he’s the oldest and the only boy.
Post # 14
I had the smaller room because my brothers always shared the larger room. Matter of fact they still share (in their teens) even though I moved my stuff out of my room long ago. No worries, it’ll work out.
If it’s really an issue (and you have the money) if the rooms are next to eachother you could just knock out the wall between them and put it in a place that makes it more “even” if that’s even possible (since I dk the situation). If not, they’ll still get over it. haha.