Post # 1
So Hubby and I got married last month. I have a 10 almost 11 year old son from a previous marriage and he has no kids of his own.
We both have gone back ad forth about having kids or not and we recently decided that we would really love to have one or 2 together!
The age gap that our kids would have used to bother me, but the more I think about it the more positives I find it the situation.
Any Bee’s out there have kids far aprt?
Post # 2
I don’t have any children yet, but I have siblings who are much much younger than me.
I just turned 26 and I have a full sister who is about to turn 24 and another full sister who is 13. Shortly after my youngest sister was born, my parents separated and my dad has since remarried. I also have a half brother who has just turned 8 and another half brother who is about to turn 5. So, the age difference between me and each of my siblings is – 2 years, 13 years, 18 years and 21 years.
I like to think that I am close with all my siblings, but in different ways. The sister who is closest in age to me is one of my best friends, and I share a very special bond with my younger sister (she knows she can come to me for anything and I will help her). A lot of people have pointed out that my little brothers look up to me as a mother-figure, but this doesn’t bother me at all – they trust me, look to me for comfort and know I’ll always protect them. The age gaps don’t bother me at all!
Post # 3
I am 14 years older than my youngest sister, and honestly I love it. I get to be super big brother, and she loves seeing me and visiting. I grew up a lot with just my older brother, 2 years older. But I’m closer and care more about my younger sister. maybe it is just me being protective big bro.
Post # 4
almostmrse2016: I have an 8 1/2 year old and a 10 month old. It’s great! The 8 year old is super helpful but still plays a ton with his little brother. They play together a lot more than I was expecting! He really likes to make the baby laugh. As for cons, I feel sort of bad for my 8 year old because we will probably have one more who will be close in age to the baby so I do feel bad that my oldest won’t get to experience siblihgs closer in age. But I don’t think that’s a reason not to have more kids.
I say go for it!
Post # 5
Oh and I have a sister who is 19 years older than me and it was pretty cool. She was more like a really fun aunt that took me on shopping trips and did fun stuff on weekends because of our age difference. But my point is even almost 20 years in age difference they can still have a good relationship!
Post # 6
almostmrse2016: I have 3 brothers that are 5, 13, and 15 years younger than me. I have a more sibling-esque relationship with my oldest little brother and more of a cool aunt relationship with the younger two (probably also due in part that my dad treated me as a “built-in babysitter” for them).
I would have liked to have siblings closer in age, but that just wasn’t in the cards for my family lol and it worked out ok. I do want to have my future children closer in age though.
For what it’s worth, Darling Husband has 3 siblings and they are all almost exactly 2 years apart – they didn’t actually have a good sibling relationship until their 20s.
Post # 7
My sister is 12 years older then I am and my brother (passed away) was 9 years older then me. When I was younger I felt like an only child, but as I got older my sister became my best friend! I’m 22 now and she is 34. I really hardly notice the age gap since around the time I started driving. I feel like I matured a bit faster with having older siblings but I would’t change it for the world.
Plus my sister is more establish in her career so I have her buy everything when we go out! 😉 LOL
Post # 8
My girls are 1/2 sisters and are 8 years apart, but it you didn’t know it you’d think they were like 3 years apart. They are such fun together and it is a Normal dynamic for us. You should go for it.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
My older sister and I are 6 years apart and I’m 7 years older than our youngest sister. Being that much older than each other meant that we helped raise each other. I changed my little sister’s diapers, fed her, etc.. And today, she comes to me for advice here and there. I give her rides when she needs one (no license yet). My older sister did the same for me and so much more. I wouldn’t say that we’re best friends close, because we certainly don’t tell each other everything, but we all have fun together and we’re always there for each other at the end of the day.
Post # 10
My oldest daughter is now 20, middle daughter is 8 and my youngest daughter is 6.
People often drop their jaws when they hear the age difference or make some kind of snide joke about it. But, my oldest gets along very well with her sisters. She was such a little mommy when I had them, it was quite nice.
Post # 11
My brother is ten years older than me. It was fine growing up. I felt like an only child with a sometimes sibling a lot of the time because he was busy doing his own thing. Now that we’re older the age difference is meaningless.
Post # 12
I don’t have any kids yet, but my little sister is 9 years younger than me and 11 years younger than my brother. Honestly- I LOVE it. We never went through a period where we couldn’t stand each other because with the age difference we never had anything to fight about. As a kid, I was like a second mom to her, but now that she is an adult too, we are best friends. My sister definitely matured faster than other kids her age and learned how to talk in full sentences before most of her peers because she was always around older people.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
My boys are 18 years and 2 days apart. I went into labor with YDS on ODS’s 18th birthday. I find it comical when people react to the age gap. For us, it’s just life. I LOVE being a Mom the 2nd time around. I have perspective on things, and can truly understand how much of a tiny blip all of the hard stuff is. And I can relish every single moment because I can appreciate how fleeting the moments are.
Post # 14
I’m almost 10 years older than my brother and we are very close. My sister is 6 years younger than me as well and I love spoiling both of them!
Post # 15
I think that every age gap is going to bring with it it’s procs and cons. I dont think their is anything wrong with having kids with a 10 year gap, sometimes life just doesnt give you the option to choose when a baby is meant to come along! I think it would be great for your fututre kids to have a big brother who could mentor them, look out for them and give them advice. Do you think your son would have any issues with you having a baby? I mean even if he did I’m sure he would come around to the idea 🙂