(Closed) Kids at a wedding shower?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Stressed_Bride15:  I haven’t ever been to a shower with kids present, like you said what are they going to do?  Went to a baby shower once and the one kid present threw a fit that she wasn’t getting any presents….

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

Any shower I’ve been to has always had kids. I feel it is the norm, at least where I live. I’ve recently cancelled my wedding and decided to elope, but before then I was only having a small wedding of 50 people. I liked that the shower could include kids (who were not invited to the wedding) and would save some moms baby-sitting costs 🙂

If there is a bunch of kids, they will have fun together and they always get right into the games.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Stressed_Bride15:  Personally I wouldn’t, but I didn’t have any flower girls so what do I know!

I probably would invite little sister if big sister is your flower girl and she gets invited, if nothing else big sister/FG can keep little sister occupied…

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would invite them with both sisters… the kids can go play.  Mom might not even end up bringing both but its considerate to give her the option.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Almost every wedding or baby shower I’ve been to had kids (normally only the little girls though).  They participate in the games, or go off in a corner and play amongst themselves.  The babies just sleep. My shower had 6 I think and I didn’t notice any chaos, distractions or meltdowns (to the point that I don’t even know how many actually showed up).  To answer your question, I do think it’d be slightly rude to invite one little sister and not the other.  I would hope the mom of the two girls (or any mom) would know her kids well enough to determine if they would be a problem at a shower due to an interrupted nap time, normal meltdowns in public, etc. and then chose to find alternative care if so. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My flower girl and her baby sister were at mine!  It was fun and they weren’t a problem at all!  My flower girl was super excited about helping me open gifts.  It was cute.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Depends on how close the guest is with you.  I’ve taken my daughter to showers.  But she is very well behaved in those kind of situations. She’s not running around like a nut causing disruptions.  Her name was usually on the invites as well, coming from family members or very close friends.   If it was someone from work, then no, I wouldn’t have taken her. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It all depends on how well behaved the children are. My nieces were at mine — the majority of the shower went okay, but the present opening got interesting. Little kids aren’t usually very good at watching other people open presents.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@cmbr:  

And “well-behaved” means something different to everyone…

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’ve been to a lot of weddings and showers and I’ve only seen kids at one, and it went horrible. Kids don’t like to watch other people open presents and they have no issue letting everyone else know how upset they are. 

In almost all of the pictures from my friend’s baby shower there are a group of kids in the middle, throwing fits and trying to take presents. They were all between the ages of 4 and 9, and typically “well-behaved”. 

There will be no children at my shower since I can’t seem to avoid having them at my wedding. 

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