Post # 31
I didn’t make any assumptions (note the word “might” in that first paragraph). OP asked for an opinion, and I told her mine, along with the reasons why. Fairly obviously, if she has no out of town guests then the same rules do not apply… I specifically said this in my final paragraph, where I explained that evening only guests would not usually receive child invites here because they would be local, for example, and also because it would be an evening event.
There is also a difference between having a child and a pet… it is much easier to guarantee the behaviour of the child than the pet, many considerate hosts offer on site babysitting and child activities during weddings (but not pet activities), people are not allergic to children but may be allergic to pets, and finally pets can be left for several days in kennels… children can’t. It’s not a good comparison.
I’m also fully aware that an invitation is not a summons. I am pointing out that for many people, if they did not invite children then there would be no way which many of their guests could possibly attend. (As an aside… I do not have children myself.)
… I also have to smile a bit inside when I read some of these American attitudes to children being around alcohol *gasp*. We’re a lot more relaxed in Europe!
Post # 32
See that’s why I’m torn. I live very close to all but 2 of my cousins (on my mom’s side) and I see them once a month. My cousins that live local have 11 kids between them, 9 of which are under 10 years old. I adore these kids, but the ones I’m closest to their parents have already decided they’ll have a sitter. <br /><br />My fiancee doesnt’ have quite as many, I think there are 6 or 8 kids under 16yrs. <br /><br />And then most of our friends have kids. <br /><br />If it were an outdoor wedding I think it’d be perfect, they can run around and be loud all they want, but inside it seems less do-able. Plus it’s in the evening, there will be alcohol and the venue we’re looking at is close an hour’s drive from our home town and most of our guests. Maybe I sholdn’t say “NO KIDS” but mention these pitfalls and let the parents decide the best course of action. I plan on making up a bunch of coloring books and I could send some home with the parents who choose to leave their kiddos at home.