(Closed) Kids at my wedding

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Unfortunately, children are the responsibility of their parents and there isn’t really anything you can do to ensure they stay quiet. Whilst most will do what they can to keep them quiet during the ceremony (bringing something to entertain them, shushing them if they start to fuss, removing them from the room/area etc), others just don’t seem to care and will let their kids be disruptive. The only way to avoid this is to not invite children and you’ve already said that this is not an option.

Some people will offer a babysitting service during the ceremony and reception, but in my experience a lot of parents prefer not to use it because they only leave their kids with people they know and/or want them to be involved in the event.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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trianglecoast:  Are you getting married in a church? Many churches have a mother’s room or a parents’ room where upset, hungry or crying babies can be taken by their parents. Some of them even have a view of the altar area and piped in sound so the adult guest mises nothing.

You can include information about resources for parents on a separate enclosure and/or on your website. The information is a strong hint that fussy babies should be removed. You can also ask your ushers to seat guests with infants at the back and in aisle seats so, if necessary, they can make a graceful exit.

You can offer to help locate  professional childcare- many hotels offer this serice.Many parents will not avail themselves of the service, and that is their choice.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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trianglecoast:  Never assume anything. Check with the restaurant to see if there is any room that could be used as a refuge for crying babies. Sometimes they can get creative with the wine room, staff room etc.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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trianglecoast:  I”m having a bunch of kids at mine…. In addition to having a “meltdown/nap” room, I am printing out wedding activity books and having crayons.  During cocktail hour I also have corn hole and other games, and there is an animal farm 3 min walking down the hill.  

That said, many of our guests with kids elected not to bring them.  Even so, out of 183 guests, we have a whopping 27 under 21 years old, ranging from 4 month old to teenagers.  The teenagers are helping out babysitting during the reception.  Fortunately the kids have been to many weddings, so I”m not too worried.  At most I am just going to ask the coordinators to spread the word about where the meltdown room is

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

We are getting married at a local fair ground that has a fenced in park for the children to play on the other end of the grounds. Our wedding will be small (about 120 guests, including several children) and pretty casual so we plan on hiring a few “babysitters” to watch over the younger children at the park while the adults enjoy the ceremony. After the ceremony, the children are more than welcome to join in for dinner and dancing at the reception (held at the same location). Obviously, some guests might not feel comfortable leaving their children with a babysitter that they didn’t personally hire so I am HOPING those parents have the decency to exit the ceremony if their child decides to cry at the top of their lungs during our vows. I was team “no kids” but future hubby vetoed that idea almost immediately. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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trianglecoast:  We are having the same problem my SO’s sibling & step-siblings have 5 kids under 6 with twins on the way and 3 couples “trying”. Just them alone and not counting friends & extended family. The youngest 3 are trypically pretty well behaved (the oldest 2 were horrible at a wedding on Saturday), but at a wedding in April the middle nephew threw a tantrum and no one could hear the entire last half of the wedding. We want to hire babysitters but his neices and nephews have never been watched by anyone other than family so we don’t know if they’d use them or not. Like you, we don’t care what they do at the reception, but we are extremely worried about the wedding. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

So I know this is just an anecdote and not actual advice, but I had kids at my wedding and they were one of the highlights of the whole day. None of them were troublesome during the ceremony (and one of them was less than a year old, slept the whole time), they were an absolute blast during dancing, idk I know it’s a gamble having kids there but I’m really glad we let people bring them. We didn’t do anything special for them, we just trusted their parents to take care of them 

Just telling you this to ease some of your fears in case you feel like you have to invite the kids or you end up being too pressured about it, since I hardly ever see anyone take a pro-kids stance on here. I mean have the day you envision, just know that kids at a wedding don’t *always* mean disaster!

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