(Closed) Kids at the wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Whether you want kids there is up to you, but people’s feelings will be hurt if some guests can bring kids and some guests can’t.  However, most people’s feelings will not be hurt if your son is there, and their kid wasn’t invited since the distinction is pretty clear.  If you’re going to only have some kids, you need to have a pretty bright line rule (ie, only kids in the wedding)

Post # 4
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121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We are inviting family members’ children, but not friends. I think that our friends will appreciate leaving their kids with a babysitter/ parent for the evening and that there won’t be any hard feelings.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Kids cost $59????  That is the most ludicrous thing I’ve ever heard!!!   Is there any room for negotiation with the venue? 

Personally, I don’t have a problem with kids at weddings, as evidenced by the fact that we have 18 kids attending our wedding (not including the babies who don’t need a meal provided for them).   Do many of your guests with kids have to travel far to attend your wedding?  That’s where I think it gets tricky.  Most of my guests are Out of Town and all of them were invited with kids as I didn’t feel it appropriate to say hey, leave your kids at home for the weekend and come to my wedding.  Granted, many of them chose to leave their kids at home, but they appreciated that the option was there. 

The other thing is that I think you’d be ok to invite kids of family members and cut it off there if need be.  People will understand that, but if you start chopping and changing, allowing some friends to bring kids whilst others can’t, I think you start creating some sticky situations. 

If there is no room for negotiation on the kids price, I think you could just make that known to the parents of kids, saying that you couldn’t actually afford to invite children as the cost for them was the same as an adult but you hope they’re still able to attend.  

Good luck!

Post # 8
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would check and see if there is a less expensive kids menu, $59 is a lot of money for a small child! 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The kids or no kids decision is totally up to you & your Fiance and no one else.

Is your kid price the same as your adult price? Usually it’s lower mine was half price? 5 and under was also free with my venue.

Kids ranging from months old to 18 made up 25% of our guests list and we gladly paid for it because we can’t imagine a wedding without kids? We just included it as part of our budget and that was that.

Growing up kids were ALWAYS at weddings. To me I’d rather have kids at a wedding than $300 Louboutins or a fancy send off, etc etc. Personal choice.

P.S. Not a single crying baby at our wedding just tons of insanely cute kids hitting up the dance floor!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We’re inviting the kids, because it won’t make that much of a difference and because A LOT will be coming from out of town.  

Most, I say this because I’m a parent, also, would leave the kids home and enjoy a night out without the kids.  It’s a great excuse to have the night out, actually.

 

Post # 12
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - Sweet ceremony by the sea and sunset celebration on the North Shore of Hawaii

i guess it depends how many kids it is. we had very few – 6 total – and, like some previous bees mentioned, most of our friends opted to leave their kiddos at home with the grandparents. that helped keep the little ones from dominating the day. but seriously the party wouldn’t have been nearly as awesome if those 6 amazing kiddos weren’t there. good luck, lady!

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Is it possible for you to get a couple of babysitters? May be a hassle, but well worth it for the kids not in the wedding. If your cost is $59 per kid alone, you could probably hire babysitters for the price of 5 kids to attend your reception. I’ve seen this done at a recent wedding and have contemplated this for my own wedding. 

If you like this idea, ask around to kids entertainment companies – ie those that do face painting, balloon twisting, character birthday parties, etc. Usually they have good contacts for something like this. 

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