Post # 1
My fiancé and I are trying to figure out how many kids we are going to invite to the wedding. The wedding is at a very small venue which only holds about 100 people, and we already have 95 adults invited to the wedding. I want 3 kids to be invited: two of my little girl cousins who will be 9 and 11, and my little niece who will also be 9. These are literally the only kids who I’m close to and the only kids who I would want at the wedding. However, if I only invite these girls, it will be leaving out other kids in my and my fiance’s family. I know this would be rude to ONLY invite these three girls. However, if I include them as junior bridesmaids and not invite any other kids, is it still rude?
Post # 3
If you give them a role so they have an excuse to be there, it’s totally fine. We had an adults only wedding with the exception of my cousins who were in our Bridal Party and DH’s cousins who came in from Out of Town (they were the only Out of Town kids) and not a single person complained. We had plenty of parents on the guest list and their children weren’t invited. Most looked forward to a night off anyway.
Post # 4
I agree with CaitMarae, you don’t even have to make them junior Bridesmaid or Best Man, you could make them in charge of getting people to sign the guestbook or handing our your wedding programs. 🙂
Post # 5
Yah I’d just give them some token “role” and forget about it.
Post # 6
@CaitMarae, @ShutterbugCait, @Pinkmoon: Thanks for your responses! I’m apt to agree with you three, I think the role makes all the difference. I talked to my mom today and she seemed hesitant, next we’re asking my Future Mother-In-Law. We’ll see!
Any other thoughts?
Post # 7
My fiance and I also do not want kids at our wedding because…..he has 14 nieces/nephews!! And that is only the family, we also have many friends with many kids. However, his 3 nieces (the rest are boys) really want to be flower girls (they have never even been to a wedding let alone be a flower girl and they are only getting older!). So I said they could all be flower girls. Then one of my FI’s sisters (also my bridesmaid) said all 4 of her children (1 flowergirl and 3 boys) all really wanted to see us get married. So I said fine. Kids for the ceremony, but after that-they gotta go! We are considering keeping them in a room at the venue with a movie and babysitter, but only time will tell how that works out. Otherwise it is up to them to have their own babysitter take them home! We all discussed it at a large family meeting and everyone agreed it was best to have a kid-free reception. They all wanted to enjoy the wedding themselves and not be responsible for the kids. I think it is fine to have those few kids stay for your wedding and reception, just give them a job. People will understand.
Post # 8
o also, we put a little description on our wedding website about how we were having a kid-free reception and made it clear that we just wanted all our adult friends to enjoy the day with us stress free.
Post # 9
In my opinion kids in the bridal party and really lil babies are fine.