(Closed) Kids at wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: What would be the most polite/in line with etiquette?
    Invite the three girls and don't worry what other people think about not inviting other kids. : (14 votes)
    26 %
    Invite the three girls and make them junior bridesmaids. Don't worry about inviting other kids. : (24 votes)
    45 %
    There's no polite way to only invite a few kids: it's either all kids or no kids. : (15 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If you give them a role so they have an excuse to be there, it’s totally fine. We had an adults only wedding with the exception of my cousins who were in our Bridal Party and DH’s cousins who came in from Out of Town (they were the only Out of Town kids) and not a single person complained. We had plenty of parents on the guest list and their children weren’t invited. Most looked forward to a night off anyway. 

    Post # 4
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    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I agree with CaitMarae, you don’t even have to make them junior Bridesmaid or Best Man, you could make them in charge of getting people to sign the guestbook or handing our your wedding programs. 🙂

    Post # 5
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    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Yah I’d just give them some token “role” and forget about it.

    Post # 7
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    59 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My fiance and I also do not want kids at our wedding because…..he has 14 nieces/nephews!! And that is only the family, we also have many friends with  many kids. However, his 3 nieces (the rest are boys) really want to be flower girls (they have never even been to a wedding let alone be a flower girl and they are only getting older!). So I said they could all be flower girls. Then one of my FI’s sisters (also my bridesmaid) said all 4 of her children (1 flowergirl and 3 boys) all really wanted to see us get married. So I said fine. Kids for the ceremony, but after that-they gotta go! We are considering keeping them in a room at the venue with a movie and babysitter, but only time will tell how that works out. Otherwise it is up to them to have their own babysitter take them home! We all discussed it at a large family meeting and everyone agreed it was best to have a kid-free reception. They all wanted to enjoy the wedding themselves and not be responsible for the kids.  I think it is fine to have those few kids stay for your wedding and reception, just give them a job. People will understand.

    Post # 8
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    59 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    o also, we put a little description on our wedding website about how we were having a kid-free reception and made it clear that we just wanted all our adult friends to enjoy the day with us stress free.

    Post # 9
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    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    In my opinion kids in the bridal party and really lil babies are fine.

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