- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
So I’m curious. Kids vs. No Kids at a wedding seems to be a heated debate at times. But it raised some questions in my mind. And I wanted to hear/read a level-headed debate on the topic.
I was wondering what people’s suggestions are for handling kids at a wedding.
I know I’m having kids at my wedding – couples with young kids are being invited from Texas, Minnesota, California, and Virginia. You can’t exactly ask someone to find a babysitter for that long. These people are too important to me and my prospective husband to exclude them. Plus, I love my young cousins and “nephews”. I don’t want to exclude them. Additionally, my extended family is kind of a “weddings and funerals” deal. Not inviting them to my wedding means that the only times we are likely to meet is at my grandparents’ funerals.
My parents, the venue owners, are t-totalers, so the most alcohol anyone would be able to have is two glasses of wine, and that’s IF my guy can persuade them to let him get wine for the tables. The music can’t be shocking to my grandparents (don’t want Grandpa to have a third heart attack.) It’ll be an outdoor wedding, so it’s not super-formal. It’s kid-friendly before kids are even taken into account.
I also see weddings as a celebration of families – it’s not just me and Kenny getting hitched, it’s our families, too. Kids are part of families – to intentionally exclude them seems to negate the point. (To each their own.)
However, I also know I hated formal events at that age. Couldn’t sit still unless I was drawing or reading. The reception will be as short as I can make it. I know I’m going to have paper tablecloths and crayons, as well as board games, at the reception. I don’t care if a baby starts crying during my ceremony – they are uncomfortable and bored, I get it, and it’ll just remind me that the little one is there anyway.
How are people who are allowing kids incorporating it into their wedding/reception?
What observations can parents lend for a bride planning a kid-friendly (verging on kid-centric) wedding?
Should the wedding couple arrange for an on-site babysitter or two, if possible? (pros and cons)
What would married people suggest based on past experience with kids at their own wedding?