(Closed) Kids before marriage…do you feel like you’ve missed out on anything?

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have a 2 1/2 year old and I don’t feel as though he has taken anything away from the planning experience, personally. However, Fiance and I have a daycare which makes things a bit easier. I’m a bit worried that we won’t do so well on the day-of, but I’m still ready to be Mommy and help him to understand all of the wonderful things that are happening around him. Overall, I think have a child present for all these experiences, changes the process but doesn’t take anything away from it.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My Fiance and I have 18 month old twins and I get what you’re saying. With the babies being so young, I have them on a tight schedule. I know as do they, when they eat, snack, nap and sleep. That being said, it’s hard to get time to do many other things together, because it’s always time for “something” in the babies’ schedule. I don’t like messing with their schedule, so it’s a sacrifice I am willing to make. However, thanks to pinterest, the Fi and I can make decisions together in front of our laptop!

 

Good Luck!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My daughter is making 10 this year and I am having her in my wedding as a junior bridesmaid.  I am having a blast with it all, and she has helped me play around with the centerpieces and she looks at the dresses with me.  So I wouldn’t change anything. 

I guess doing this and having a much younger child would be alittle different though.  But it’s no different than anything else we do as moms 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Take The Reins:  Yes, I have a 2.5 year old, and I feel this way sometimes. I also feel like vendors are always looking at me funny when I bring him along. I love him to death, but I am occasionally sad that I didn’t get to do all the wedding planning things when I was child free.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

This was my second marriage and I had a daughter who was 7 at the time.  Honestly, i thought it was super fun to include her the planning.  She got to pick put her own dress and helped us pick the cupcake flavors.  I didn’t really feel like i missed anything at all.

 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t have kids, but my fiance works 70-80 hours/ week so I will do most of the planning myself, plus family/friemds are all in a different state so most of the shopping/crafting will be all me. Not the easiest way to do it!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I commend anyone who does things like school, work, and etc. while raising little kids. I don’t have kids yet but I know it has to get stressful.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i do not have kids but i am understanding what you mean..

what about all the ladies on here that have been trying to have kids for a long time, sometimes you are blessed and dont even know it. some girls on here will kill for children. me and my sister in law would be those girls.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t have kids, but I feel like I’ve missed out on the usual steps because we’re getting married in MD but living in NY. I don’t really mind though because I see it as missing out on some of the stress! Anyway, my point is that whether it’s kids, distance, work, or whatever, there are always things that can stand in the way of wedding planning.

Post # 16
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Newbee

I don’t have kids but I can understand why that would be dissapointing to you. Have you talked to your fiance about it? Maybe you guys could hire a babysitter for a day and have a day together planning and having fun.

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