Post # 1
I wanted to get people’s opinions about an idea I had to solve my kids or no kids issue for my wedding. We are inviting about 200 adults. If we invited all kids, that would add like 30-40 people. That is way too many. The only kids I planned to have there is the flower girl and my 12yr old Jr. Bridesmaid or Best Man. The problem is if I invite no kids, there will be 2 (brother and sister ages 9 and 12) that are pretty close to us and are related to Fiance that will be hurt if they are told they can’t come. My question is, if we would involve them in a part of the wedding such as handing out programs for example, do you think this would make people mad if their own kids weren’t invited but these 2 were since they technically would not be in the wedding party? Could I get away with this without too many upset people??
Post # 3
I think you are probably okay if you follow that plan. The fact of the matter is, some people will probably be upset they can’t bring their kids no matter how many other kids are or are not invited. Still beats having 30-40 added to your guest list.
Post # 4
I think if they are involved in the wedding then it makes sense to invite them to the reception. Are you having any kind of sitter or activity lined up for the other kids?
Post # 5
30-40 is waay too much, you have to be able to draw the line somewhere. You could actually try to tell the 2 kids that they aren’t invited in a nice way and see how they take it. If they’re way too upset and you change your mind, then invite them last minute but don’t invite the other kids.
Post # 6
I mean, it’s probably going to cause problems either way, but if it’s important to you, assign them to give out programs and then they can be invited.
Personally we just have a flower girl and she’s the only kid invited to the wedding.
Post # 7
We drew a line at only inviting children who are related to us. That way, our little nieces and nephews, as well as my cousin’s children (ages range from 2 – 11) will be there, but not any children who we don’t really personally know.