Post # 1
I’m having a ceremony dilemma, and I think I’ve just thought about it so much that I have a mental block about the whole thing.
We decided, when we first started planning, to nix the idea of the traditional attendants–he couldn’t go lower than 7 on his side, and I couldn’t go lower than 6, and that WASN’T counting his sister, my brother, etc.
So we decided to only have children–his 7 and 8 year old niece and nephew, and my 2 year old niece and 2 year old godson. The older kids, I’m not so worried about. But…I don’t quite know what to do with the younger ones. They’re both walking and talking, but…they’re typical 2 year olds, and they don’t exactly take direction very well. For several reasons I don’t want to go into, having their parents walk with them isn’t exactly what we want. We’re toying with the idea of having older boy walk with younger boy, and then older girl walk with younger girl (having older niece kind of pull double-duty as mini-bridesmaid and flower girl), then me and my dad.
Anyone have any experience with only having kids in the ceremony? Or with experience with really little kids being in the ceremony? Any suggestions, ideas, or personal experiences are GREATLY appreciated!
Post # 3
How long is the ceremony? My kids will be in a wedding, but it is an hour long Catholic mass. Yikes! If yours isn’t too long, that’s better.
I think the idea of just children is original and cute. Pairing the olders with the youngers is a good idea too. Sometimes peopl have wagons decorated for little ones. But the two years might not need it. Will they be three come the wedding?
Sure little ones can be unpredictable. You can have them sit with mom and dad for the ceremony. Maybe you can gift them some fun, quiet, non messy activities for the ceremony. (ie. coloring pages, puzzles, snack).
If you’reanal like me, you might think twice. If you’re more laid back, go for it. It’s cute.
Post # 4
Nah, there’s no second thoughts. It’s going to be a 20 minute outdoor ceremony, so it won’t be too long for them to be a part of it. I’m just more concerned about
1.) Getting them to actually walk down the aisle, and
2.) what to do with them when they make it to the front.
Have mom and dad off to the side? The older kids can stand the duration of the ceremony, and are actually looking foward to it. And no…..they’ll be BARELY 2 for the wedding. Baby girl will actually be just shy of being 2.
Post # 5
My neice is two right now and will be just turning 3 when she is the flower girl at the wedding. A couple ideas I have are to tell her that her "Uncle" (that’s what she calls my fiance already) has a surprise for her — and maybe even have him hold something out for her — maybe some more flowers, or something shiny — that usually attracts little kids. Both her parents are in the wedding – so they will also be at the end of the aisle coercing her down.
The other big thing that we plan to do (mostly her parents) is to talk a LOT about the wedding in advance. And even practice. She loves all the disney movies and most of them have weddings or are romantic — she’ll watch them and they’ll mention it.
If all else fails — a toy doesn’t hurt! Have a book or a quiet toy waiting for them at the end of the aisle or on a seat they will sit in. Let your photographers and officiant know if you do or dont want the kids doing silly things in the pictures/mentioned or if you want them to ignore them during the ceremony. It could simply be a line that you give the officiant that says "kids will be kids and Sally and Joe are just getting a taste of their future today"
Definitely use the "big kids" to stand by your side — that’s so great of you that you are having them participate and they will love it!!
Post # 6
thanks! we’re excited about having the kids in the ceremony, and …kids will be kids, and if we have to laugh about it at the end of the day, all the better!
Post # 7
We are having 3 little girls ranging from 5-7 as our flower girls. I’m hoping they’ll be okay walking in, but I’m going to make sure they can easily get to their parents if they can’t stand up their in front of everyone for the whole time. I know one has had problems walking in in the past (she cried and refused to walk down the aisle without her mom), but I’m hoping she’ll be okay as long as she is walking with the other girls or bridesmaids. I’ve also seen little kids make the ceremony even more memorable. The nephew of a groom was about 6 and kept "fixing" things around him. It was adorable and they loved that he wanted thier day to be so perfect. In the end I say it depends on the child. Good luck!
Post # 8
i would definitely have their parents sitting at the front (maybe the 2nd row back on the sides, since I’m assuming your parents will be sitting in the front!). the idea of them sitting down with their parents is good. i would suggest an etcha sketch. my son is two, and crayons can get messy (especially in the heat). better safe than sorry! especially in nice clothes!!
the wagon idea would be good, but they might be too old. i would just say practice practice practice.
i definitely wouldn’t approach this if you want it to go perfectly. expect some bumps, but in the end, it will be all the more memories. kids will be kids and they are adorable when dress up in curls and what not. i think this is a great idea, and you sound light hearted enough to handle it!