Post # 1
One of my guests made a comment/suggestion about letting the smaller kids eat their dinner during the hour-long cocktail hour.
She suggested this because we are having a late evening wedding (ceremony at 6, dinner at 7:30) and her kids (ages 2 and 4) typically eat dinner around 6. She expressed a concern about them being cranky if they don’t eat within their normal eating hour…
The cocktail hour will have a few light appetizers and adult beverages will be available. I told her about the apps, but she laughed at her response back by saying “If they don’t eat a whole meal, they just might eat all of the fruits and veggies apps then haha.”
I thought the kids would eat dinner at the same time as the adults, but I didn’t think about smaller kids and eating times. I guess my thought is, if they eat during the cocktail hour, then what are they going to do during the dinner when the adults eat during the reception?
Would you suggest I let the kids eat their kids meals during the cocktail hour and then have some coloring books/fidgets available for them during the dinner at the reception to keep them busy?
Post # 2
coffeelvr45 : honestly if it’s not a big deal for you or doesn’t put you out, I would do it. I’m sure the kitchen can make up a couple of plates of mac or whatever they have for them ahead. The kids are the parents responsibility I wouldn’t worry about what they will do during the normal dinner. Just my two cents!
Post # 3
I personally wouldn’t. She can feed her kids before the ceremony. I think it’s rude that she even brought it up to you.
Post # 4
Our venue brought out the few kids meals I had ordered during the appetizer portion of the main seated part of the reception. My flower girl was getting hangry as she only picked at cocktail hour. While I don’t think bringing out during cocktail hour is a necessity, it might be nice to serve the children as soon as everyone is seated for the meal. It wasn’t hard for our venue to ship out some chicken fingers and fries early.
Post # 5
I’m sur the children will be fine waiting until dinner. As a mother I always have snacks and things “just in case”.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t do this, it seems like it would just be a disaster to try to plan and also to try to decide an age cutoff for who gets dinner and who doesn’t earlier than other people. I think if kids are that little and a later dinner will throw them off that badly, they probably shouldn’t take them to a weddingor should get a sitter?
Post # 7
My kid goes to bed at 7:30…
She should bring her own food for her kids if they can’t wait IMO. That’s what I would do.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE
I agree w/ PP that it was rude of her to bring it up. As a parent it’s her job to make arrangements for her children if they need to eat at a certain times. Even if they had medicine they had to take w/ food at exactly 6pm, your life doesn’t revolve around her kids.
They can easily plan to have a late lunch that day and bring a light snack w/them to fend off crankiness. As you said, there will be light apps to hold everyone over until dinner, including her and her kids.
She said jokingly “they just might eat all of the fruits and veggies apps then haha.” but TBH unless she has a horde of 20 kids, how many of the apps can they possibly eat? Take her at her word and let them fill up on apps 😉
Post # 9
Are there a lot of kids at the wedding or are these the only two? If they are the only kids I might consider accomodating the mom’s request, but if there are a bunch of kids then that’s just going to be a royal pain. As a mom I would either plan to give a snack before the ceremony to hold them over or leave the kids at home for a night out on my own if I thought they would be tired hangry messes for half the party.
Post # 10
I don’t think I’ve ever seen the kids fed during the cocktail hour. What would they do during the dinner/rest of the reception?
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
I wouldn’t serve the dinner earlier. I’d just let her parent and figure out her children’s food situation on her own. She knows when dinnertime is, she can plan accordingly.
Post # 12
Most moms keep snacks handy if there kids are apt to get hangry…I feel like she should be able to have enough little snacks to get them through the cocktail hour. Besides, I think that’s such a strange comment that they’d eat all the apps. All the 2-4 year olds I know, even good eaters, don’t eat that much. Certainly not more than a normal adult would eat.
Post # 13
misslucy : that’s part two of my question..
Post # 14
LilliV : there will be a newborn, 2 years, 4 years, 11 year old twins
Post # 15
The mother should pack snacks to hold her kids over till dinner. It’s not your responsibility.