Kids Having a Separate Menu/Table During Reception.

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Have you discussed with the parents that their kids would not be seated with them? This isn’t very common anymore – most times the parents want to be seated with their kids. 

However, if you have full buy in on that front, I think it sounds fun!

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

SoontobeF:  If you are having kids tables as activity tables to which they can come and go after the meal, great. If you are thinking of seating the children separate from their parents, I suggest you re-think that. The children will be much better behaved under the watchful eye of their parents.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I would not sit the children at a separate table for the meal, and whatever you do, make sure none of the teenage guests end up having to keep an eye on the little ones.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I think a median age of 12 is a little old for crayons and legos, unless it’s the really complicated (i.e. expensive!) lego sets.  Maybe legos for the littler ones, and put a couple of the board games on the “tween” table like Clue and Battleship.  I suspect the tweens will be playing the big jenga and connect four games you listed, and will have a great time.  Tweens are probably fine at their own table, unless you know they’re rowdy, then just sit them with the parents and they can hang out at their own table after dinner.  

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2016

My family is the same way–lots of tween cousins, and they behave appropriately.  They’re together at all family holiday events, and I’m sitting them together at the wedding.  We kind of do the “village” concept in everyone raising every elses kids, so they know to behave!  Sounds like you know your audience and are planning approriately for them.  Plus, you’ll probably put a lot of thought into this, and they’ll be playing games on their phones and ipads :).

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m commenting to follow! I’m planning on having a kid friendly wedding as well and the kids will be the same age as the group of kids at yours. My wedding will be at an event space that has like an elevated loft space. We bought really cool coloring books that we were going to have at the tables. I was also thinking of getting the peg jump game (like at Cracker Barrel) to put on the tables. In the upstairs area, I was thinking of having packs of UNO cards. 

How you describe the group of kids in your family sounds like the kids at my wedding! I think a lot of adults underestimate kids sometimes. Not all of them are crazy monsters! 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I had a teens/young adult table for one set of cousins and also a kids table for the set who were 10 and under.  We’re a close family, so all the cousins loved sitting near each other without the adults.  The small ones had a separate meal.

Umm what’s a “hashtag manager”?

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We will have 7 boys at our wedding, 2 of them our own children who are being Christened the same day  6 are cousins (from my side) all betwwen 21 months and almost 7. They are all very close and spend a lot of time together. My nephew of FI’s side is 10 so although he will play with the others, he will get a bit bored of them aftera  while. They are all very outdoorsy and he is more “static” and into computer games. I decided very early on that i want us, and my brothers and SIL’s to all be able to sit and enjoy their meal, plus i want the children to have a great time too, without being expected to sit still and be quiet! We’ve hired a wedding creche who will supervise the 6 youngest while they have a picnic and play. They supply everything and i’ve hired a bell tent for them to play in. Kids love tents, and it will be handy for their picnic is the weather is crap). They are booked for 3 hours from 4-7pm, with our wedding breakfast running from 4.30-7pm. A friend of mine said it was in the top 3 things they paid for for their wedding. If you’re confident that teh parents are happy for them to be on a different table, and that the children will happily spend time togteher/entertain themselves then go for it. I would check with the parents first though.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

SoontobeF:  I think it sounds like a great idea πŸ™‚

We’re seating the kids with their parents at ours because they’re a little young to be sat alone. We’re having an activity table like you are though so that they can go and play when they get bored between courses πŸ™‚

They get a special menu too, which is good because it’s cheaper than the adult menu and it sounds delicious! πŸ™‚

We were thinking of having colouring pages, lego, decorate your own superhero mask kits and mazes on the table. I really like the sound of the paper table cloth though, so I’ll steal that idea! πŸ™‚

Also, what is a hashtag manager? lol not heard of this before πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

you can do as you wish but I cant see how this could work from either perspective

as a parent I would not like my child to be elsewhere, he is a well behaved child in general but will go crazy with excitement big group situations because theres so much going on – at any party where hes been sat seperately I have to constantly get up to corrall him and hover round and can focus on anything else… unfortunatly having a ‘sitter’ doesnt help either, no one can tame or disapline your child like you can so he just wraps them round his finger and gets away with havok

plus thinking back to being a young teenager/pre-teen I would really not of like being sat with my cousins – I get on fine and use to play with them when we where together ect… but id rather of been sat with my family who I would be more comfortable with and talking too

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

SoontobeF:  I re- read my response and I realized I never answered your question. Sorry about that! My plan was to have all the kids at age appreciate tables with other kids their age. I was going to put all the middle school kids at one table and the elementary aged kids at the other. It might break up a couple of siblings, but I think it will be fine. Most of the kids know each other already. They’re all my FI’s cousins from his mom’s and dad’s side, but they’ve all spent time together before. The kids who aren’t cousins are siblings. I babysit full time and they’re the three kids I babysit for every day. I’m also going to offer the kids their own menu. I’ve run all my kid ideas passed the three kids I see everyday and so far they’ve liked all of them. (And they would tell me if they hated anything)!

It’s so funny reading other people’s responses because I would have never thought to sit families together. Growing up in a Jewish family, I’ve been going to formal Bar and Bat Mitzvah’s since I was a kid. And even though they are kid’s parties, where I’m from the parties cater more to adults than to the kids. All the kids always sat together, even when I was younger and not 13. 

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