Post # 1
Hello everyone! this is my first post. i have been engaged for a week today, and i am sooo excited about everything. Me and my fiance pretty much are on the same page about the ceremony except for the fact that he has 5 neices and nephews and i have 1. He wanst all six kids in the wedding! they range from 2-6. I think they are too little. of course young kids are cute in weddings and everything, but i just dont want 6 small children in my wedding. however, if we have the 2 oldest ones, would that be okay?!?! help me out here people. lol!
Post # 3
Hm, you’ll probably get mixed responses here. I personally cannot stand childen in a wedding. So I would opt for just having the two (or none at all!). Either way, six YOUNG kids in one wedding sounds like a heck of a lot! What exactly would they all do?
Post # 4
hi, FutureMrsMuller, and congrats on your engagement! So exciting! And welcome to the ‘bee.
we are having 7 – yes, count ’em – 7 kids under the age of 6 in our wedding party. this is because my fiance’s twin sister has 4 children, his other sister has 1, my brother has 1, and he also has a very close little cousin. his family is coming 3,000 miles for this wedding so we figured, what the hey, let’s just let ’em all be one big happy group.
4 flowergirls – ages 6, 5, 4, and 1
3 ring bearers – ages 4, 3, and 1
we’re probably gonna let the little ones come down the aisle in a cluster, get their oohs and aahs, and then go sit with their respective families for the duration of the ceremony. everybody gets to be included, but it shouldn’t turn into a circus.
i know kids in a wedding isn’t everybody’s cup of tea, but for us, it just made sense not to exclude family, especially when they’re so excited and coming so far for our big day.
good luck with all your planning!
Post # 5
virginiamarie, i totally understand your point of view. im glad im not the only cold hearted one who doesnt like the fact of kids in weddings. but heres the deal, i want the 2 oldest becuase well, the 6 year old is my only nephew and the 5 year old has lived with my fiance and his parents since he was a newborn. ” Family issues”. when i told my fiance that i just wanted theses two(ringbearers) he was afraid that his other brothers and sisters would be jealous, like y dont u want my kid in your wedding kinda thing… but i think its different ya know.
misspumpkinpenguin. lol thats so cute. anywayz, i totally understand where your comin from too. although you guys live far away, your family seems very close. i think its really nice that your letting everyone be apart!….. good luck with all those kiddos girlly! lol
Post # 6
I think the two ring bearer idea could work… you could have your nephew carry his ring and his carry your ring! The fact that they are the oldest is a plus for you as well. But the cluster of kids could be fun as well. However the infant/toddlers are probably too little anyway, so their families won’t think a thing of it!
Post # 7
I love kids in the wedding! To have them in your wedding doesn’t mean they have to stand up the entire ceremony- it just means they’ll get to be in pictures maybe they’ll match, and they get to walk down the isle. Kids always add life and ‘aws’- I think it would be special to have the kids be a part of the big day.
Post # 8
I think you’ll be fine with just the two oldest, especially since there’s one from your side and one from his, and especially if all the others are 4 and under. Then you can tell his siblings that “everyone says that 5-7 is the best age for ringbearers and flower girls, and you can relax and enjoy the wedding” because it can be stressful making sure your child doesn’t mess up during the ceremony. For instance, my sister froze and forgot to throw the rose petals, and my cousin cried and had to be carried down the aisle by her father. It’s not like you’re not part of the family unless you’re in the wedding party – someone has to be guests!
Post # 9
Well you do make an argument or just the two oldest.
I am a little concerned that he has five, and they age range is fairly close (2-6). Does that mean there is another 6 yr old? 5 yr old? I think some of his nieces/nephews could be hurt, feeling like their uncle is playing favorites. The 2 yr olds won’t notice or care. 3 yr olds -it depends. A girl might -boy probably not. But at 4 or 5, I think they could start to ask questions. They might already feel like he likes the oldest best because he lives with him.
Probably more compelling is the family drama you might get. Like colorfulbride said, it’s not like it has to be a big deal to have them all in the wedding. Pick out a cute outfit. Send them down the aisle. Weeeee!
Just my vote.