Member- NikkiKillpretty
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I feel so naive that I actually thought we would get away without numerous requests from invited guests to bring their wonderful, adorable, otherwise fabulous and yet uninvited children to our wedding! Now, it’s not a kid free wedding entirely, our children will be there obviously, as well as our nieces and nephews which will total 4 teens and 5 tots.
I was careful to address each invite formally with only the names of those invited and while it is an “at home wedding” it’s really not casual at all. The invites were formal, the wedding website is formal. I feel awful. We did not budget for these extra little people and yet would feel terrible if our friends were unable or unwilling to attend because they can’t bring their children.
A few of my other concerns besides seating and food are: complete domination of the dance floor, while cute when it’s one or two, 12 kids under the age of 10 running across the dance floor will quickly deter any adult from wanting to dance, there’s also a pond on the property which makes me nervous, and lastly, I want my friends to enjoy themselves! I don’t want them to have to be chasing their kids around or worrying about them or have to leave early because of them. I’m the parent of a 4 year old and two year old so I get it. Finding a sitter can be hard but, bringing them with can put a damper on things as well. Not to mention I would never think to bring my kids if they were not invited.
Any advice on how to handle this delicate situation? 
