Post # 1
The kids meals at our venue are $90 each. This is a three course meal with entree, main and dessert (penne pasta, chicken schnitzel and icecream).This cost also takes into account all drinks as well as the DJ and MC at the venue.
This meal is fine for the 4 kids who will be at the wedding who are 10-12 years old however my issue is with the 6 children that are under 5 years old… They would not simply eat all of this food. More likely pick at it then leave it.
A number of parents say that their little one is more likely to eat some bread and a bit of food off of their plate instead of eating their own meal.
My conundrum is… Do I pay another 6 x $90 for potentially uneaten food or do I make sure there are plenty of drinks and rolls supplied to the little ones and hope that they are happy to eat some of their parents food?
We want to have these children at our reception as we both love kids and 4 of the children are with 2 lots of friends from interstate and the other two are the children of members of the bridal party but it is really stressing me out as it is a potential $540 on top of our recepetion costs.
What have others done with younger guests and their meal?
Any advice or suggestions greatly appreciated
Post # 3
I would pay for every guest to have a meal. Many adults don’t finish all the food on their plate at a wedding either, it’s not just an issue with young guests.
Post # 4
If the $590 isn’t a huge deal, you might as well pay for another meal for the child. Or, if you’re very close to their parent, you could ask them if they’d like a meal provided for their child or if they would like to share their food with them.
Post # 5
I realize this is not the answer you were hoping for, but I think you really have to provide some sort of meal for every guest. Rolls do not = a meal. Could you try talking to your venue about a scaled down offering for the youngest guests?
Post # 6
Your venue is charging a pretty penny for the older kids meals.
My own kids ate off my plate when we went out to dinner from ? age 1-4. They eat so little at one time.
I would speak directly to the parents to see what they think. I would also consider providing a goodie bag for the kids with small food items: yogurt tubes, dried fruit, juice boxes, goldfish crackers etc.
Post # 7
angelicgirl2000: Eek, that is pretty expensive for under 5s. Since you are willing to pay for the 10 – 12 year olds, could you go back to your caterers and say that the full meal is uneccessary for just the youngest children and ask if they could arrange something smaller and less expensive? I know this is probably a really silly question and that you’ve already checked, but I would be tempted to ask again. It seems odd that there wouldn’t be an alternative, smaller option. Heck, I think just the chicken and then some wedding cake would be fine!
Post # 8
are you allowed to bring in food from an outside caterer? maybe you could order a few cheaper kid meals from a local restaurant and have those brought in.
Post # 9
I researched dozens of venues, over the last 2 years, for 2 family weddings. Some venues had 2 rates i.e. 13 and up pay the full adult rate (usually with no reduction for open bar), and some had 3 rates, with the first one starting at 2-12, the next 13 to under 21, and 21+. I’m guessing the venue philosophy was that if the child was occupying it’s own chair/booster seat, you had to pay for a meal for them.
For the wedding where we invited kids,we had to pay around $86 each for 3 (9, 10, and 12 -all were in the wedding party), because they charged a half-rate for the open bar ($26 per child for 5 hours of soda). For the 2 15 year olds and 1 18 year old, we got $26 off the adult rate, as a bar reduction = $160 each. (these rates included a 20% service charge and 6% state sales tax).
Both contracts I signed stated that no outside food or beverage could be brought in. I’m sure baby food would be okay.
I felt that most of the venues I was considering (formal, evening, plated dinners) discouraged kids attending, by charging what they did. If your rate includes such things as the DJ/MC, I’m sure that they have to cover the cost of that based on the number of seats used, whether the seat is occupied by a 4-year old, or a 40-year old.