Post # 16
MizCalliope: as someone who goes by her middle name i can tell you it’s a complete and total pain in the ass. I actually go by my second middle name and my parents have always called me that – it wasn’t an issue until post 9/11 and now it can make my life incredibly difficult.
I would personally use the full version of the name he goes by. Forget about the first name or use just the initial in the yearbook.
Post # 17
MizCalliope: I’d go with Alfred Smith. I don’t think putting the nickname version makes sense since it’s not actually his name.
Another option: my dad has the same situation where he goes by a nick name version of his middle name. Most people do not know his first name. For something like sort of “professional” like this, he uses S. Alfred Smith.
You could try that? Seems pretty formal for a little guy though!
Post # 18
Agreed with Alfred Smith. You said he never gets called “Sebastian”. None of the things you mentioned are legal documents that are going to cause him hassle. Legal documents you will probably want to always go Sebastian Alfred Smith to include both names and avoid any confusion.
Post # 19
MizCalliope: I would go with whatever his friends call him. If in 10 years someone is looking through an old yearbook, will they adk “Who is Sebastien Smith??” or will it be “awwww, I remember ol’ Alfie!”
Post # 20
steen425: This, exactly. I think you can go with either Alfred or Alfie – people would remember either way. But no one will know who Sebastian Smith was! Also, it’s really not a big deal. You can handle it one way this year, another way the next year. I think social media has really changed this kind of thing; people are much more likely to track him down on facebook (or whatever the equivalent is in 15 years) than look him up in old yearbooks.
Post # 21
This isn’t going to be a big issue in grade school, but as you get close to the paperwork meaning something, you’ll want to use full legal name (for paperwork at least). I thought all schools used full legal name anyway with nicknames in quotes after the names but maybe that’s a local custom. You just don’t want to make it complicated for the records to match up to the student.
Post # 22
I would do either S. Alfred Smith or Alfred Smith (unless it is common at your child’s school to do nicknames for yearbooks for the yearbook). I would guess that most teachers will label classroom things with Alfie.
Make sure the official school records are his full name. I had a friend in highschool who had very serious issues with getting into college because his transcripts didn’t match his drivers liscense.
Post # 23
If his name was Sebastian Alfred Smith but he goes by Alfie, I would use his full name for any legal documents but Alfred Smith for everything else. This way, if he outgrows his nickname or starts to go by another one it won’t be as big a deal.