(Closed) Kids okay for ceremony but not reception

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

the only way to know if this is really okay is to run it by your cousin and sister. i do think you should pay for the sitter and have the sitter come pick them up from the ceremony so your sister and cousin don’t have to miss the cocktail hour. i think it’s a fine plan.

Post # 4
1267 posts
Bumble bee

I think that’s a great idea!!

Post # 5
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree you’ll need to take this up with her. I won’t leave my kids with just any sitter, so just hiring someone might not work.

Post # 6
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i think this is ideal. we are doing exactly this. Any kids (in the wedding party or not) are invited to the ceremony. (FI is one of 76 grandchildren, so he has alot of younger cousins)

Luckily we are having the reception at the hotel where everyone is staying so we got a room and plan to order pizzas and set up movies for all the kids to enjoy.



Post # 7
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

I think it it is a nice offer but as a parent, I would decline. I would not leave my child in a strange city, in a strange hotel, with a stranger. I’m sorry, but I wanted to be honest.

Post # 8
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it is great that you are going to do goodie bags for the kids, and the nearby hotel seems like an ideal location.  But I would not offer to pay for a “sitter.” I’m not a lawyer, but if you hire someone for child care and (god forbid) something happens, I think you are liable.  And, based on a PP, I would guess that most parents would not want to leave their kids with a stranger.  Instead, can you coordinate with someone else you know – like a famiily friend who maybe did not get an invite- to watch the kids?  Try to set it up like “this dear family friend will watch the kids during the reception” rather than “I’m hiring a sitter.”  It might put the ‘rents at ease.

Post # 10
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I personally wouldn’t leave my children with anyone so might be best to discuss it with your sister.  If it’s someone your fiance knows well it sounds like a good plan. 

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