(Closed) Kids on leashes. Thoughts?

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think some people get hung up on the visual perception? I think it’s a great option rather than being stuck in a stroller when they are capable of walking in certain places!

Was also a kid on a leash, and totally going to have my kid on one if ever needed/depending on the situation!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Do you watch Modern Family?

I personally putting a kid on a leash as I do my dogs. I feel that it can be degrating. Also, why can’t parents hold kids hands. Darling Husband was that kid on a leash and remembers it and has very negative feelings about being put on a leash, feeling more like an animal than a child. Also, the people around me that I do see put their kids on a leash seem to be overwhelmed at the thought of putting their kids strapped in a carriage or holding their hand.

I am not a parent yet and I understand that parents have to due what is best for themselves and their families even if others may not agree. I personally believe ever parents has to make these decisions independently of what others may think.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My parents used to clip a dog leash to my belt-loop when we were in crowded places.

I have no problem with kids on leashes, I think it keeps them safe. Some places I think it’s unneccesary; but for crowds, I think it’s a great idea! If a kid slips his hand away and takes a few steps, in crowded areas, you already can’t see them.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I hear ya. My mom had four kids in nine years and my little brother was one that would head off in any direction at any second! I guess like many things in the parenting “toolbox” there is probably a good way and a bad way to use them.

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

My brother had something similar!  Mom got this monkey backpack thingy and the monkey’s tail was basically a bungee, and mom could hold onto the other end.  The monkey’s arms and legs velcroed together in the front, like a harness.  I mean, it wasn’t a substitute for paying attention to him, but he had/has really severe ADHD and is so impulsive that he would dart into a street, or wander off at the store.  The monkey backpack/leash was mainly for his safety.  He has no lasting ill effects of having been occasionally restrained for his well being.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it looks ridiculous.  DH and I have both vowed that our kids will never be on leashes.  Leashes, IMO, are for animals, not children.

It just feels very degrading to me and I think also gives parents an excuse to not have to pay attention to their children.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t like it at all.  That being said, I also don’t have kids.  I live in DC and see kids on leashes downtown with their parents all the time, and I think that it looks degrading.  The parents are usually not paying attention to the kids, comforted by the fact that the kid is leashed up. 

Honestly, once I saw two parents not paying attention at all while one child (maybe 4 or 5) “walked” the leashed kid (maybe 2).  Clearly, not what it was designed for.

I will not ever leash my children, but it’s a personal choice.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Me and my little brother used to have those exact same wrist leashes you’re talking about!! They don’t bother me as long as the parent isn’t yanking them on it.

@roxy821:  Totally saw that episode and I was cracking up when Jay bought her  the high heels LMAO

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Lol, my parents had to leash me when I was little. Apparently I was super bad and I’d run the hell away every chance I had. I’m impartial I guess. But I certainly understand why parents use them. Kids are wily. I think mine was one of those little back-pack ones. I remember my mom telling me that they ended up having to like, harness the back-pack on me, because I just started taking it off and running away.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

As long as the parent is still paying attention to the child (and not just dragging them around/using it as an excuse to ignore them) I see no problem with it.

Much better to have a kid on a leash then lose one in a theme park. That Modern Family episode was funny.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Pom227- I love the way that show puts a funny spin on controversial topics. Darling Husband and I were dying especially when she started barking and Jay was telling her to heel.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We just had this debate on mothers day with DH’s family. I was a kid on a “leash” ( it was the same wrist coily thingy that you had, OP) and I think it’s a FANTASTIC idea. Kids are quick and if you drop their hand for a second, they could take off. Wouldn’t you rather have your child attached to you at all times than run the risk of being separated especially in a crowded mall or theme park? My kid will be on a leash. No ifs, ands or buts about it. If someone has an issue with it then they can give me the stink eye all they want. Not their kid, not their concern.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

My mom had one that attached around my wrist and there are so many pictures of me loving it. I would pretend I was dog and stuff. I don’t think it’s degrading unless the parent treat it that way and the kids hate it.

I never saw it as degrading, I saw it as a game, and my mom saw it as a way to keep track of me in crowds. She would hold my hand as well, but this way it was harder for someone to grab me. The chances are low but better safe than sorry (:

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

When Dirty Delete was little, she had one of these and I used it. It was shaped like a monkey and was a backpack. The monkeys tail was the part you held onto. She LOVED it. I got dirty looks from some people, and others asked where I got so they could buy one. I used it when we went to places like a theme park, a state fair, any really crowded place. I didn’t use it at WalMart or something like that.

In my experience, it really was a damned if you do, damned if you don’t. When we started using it, she had really just gotten into walking. She didn’t want to be in the stroller and cried if you forced her into it. She also didn’t want to be held. She wanted to be mobile. I couldn’t hold her hand, carry the bags and all that at the same time (single parent, no help to do the heavy lifting). I couldn’t just let her walk by herself. Then she’d be going EVERYWHERE, and I’d be one of *those* parents others are so quick to judge. So, for us, it was better to put her in the harness. That way I still have control over where she goes, and she has the ability to be mobile. I appease the masses by not pushing a screaming child in a stroller, not having a toddler touching everything and running all over the place, and keep all my hair attached to my head.

She was happy, I was sane, and those people who gave me sideways, judgeypants looks can pound sand.

ETA: When we were at home, she would put it on and carry the tail part around herself. She thought it was the coolest thing.

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