(Closed) Kids or no kids? help?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
30388 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you really don’t want to have children at the wedding and ended up having children of the family  to compromise and maintain the peace you are under NO obligation to invite children of people who live locally. It was generous of you to invite the child of the Out of Town Bridesmaid or Best Man.

The last place a 1,2 or 4 year old want to be is a wedding. Sitting quietly and behaving are not skill sets they have mastered. They would be bored to death and most likely interfere with ther guests’ enjoyment of the wedding.

Post # 4
41 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

The bottom line is.. it’s your wedding!! If you don’t want their kids to be there, but just feel as though you’re obliged to invite them, then you shouldn’t invite them. The only people that attend your wedding should be people you actually want their. It’s the one time in all our lives where we should have automatic permission to be selfish for a day 🙂 giving people in the bridal party a plus 1 is generous enough, but plus 2, 3, 4 or 5 is a bit much (depending on how many kids they’ve got). Also, if they seem disappointed that their children can’t come, you can always tell them that it’s just too expensive. The more guests you have, the bigger the venue or the more food you have to pay for. I’m sure they’ll understand. x

Post # 5
2152 posts
Buzzing bee

Kids are not part of the social unit and do not have to be invited.

It is often easier to have a blanket rule then to pick and choose, even though that is your right.  If it was a matter of one extra kid then I would have probably invited them. 

Post # 6
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m not having any children whatsoever at my wedding. The youngest person there will be my brother, & he’ll be 15. My future Brother-In-Law /SIL have 2 children, but I’ve made it clear it will be adults only. It would just be an awkward place for them to be, & I don’t want them to feel like they can’t enjoy the wedding because they have to watch their children. Plus, I’m not at the point in my life where I even like children. >.>

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