(Closed) Kids or No Kids – How do I “suggest” none

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

If you’re not totally opposed to any of them being there but just want to cut down on the numbers, why don’t you just try inviting the parents? Just address the envelopes/invites to them. You could also say, "We have reserved (2) seats in your honor" on the response card. I guess you could then run into the problem of people who don’t bring their kids getting upset when other people call you, ask if they can, presumably are told yes, and do, but — you can’t make everybody happy.

Alternatively, you could try offering babysitting services somewhere; do you have a hotel block in a certain place? 

Post # 4
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We had this problem and we are having a similar wedding (7:30 pm ceremony, cocktail reception).  I made it very clear on the website rather than the invitation.  Who brings children to a cocktail party at 9 pm anyway?  I also did the inner/outer envelop addresses and so far, we have not had any issues with the replies. 

Post # 5
1205 posts
Bumble bee

Other than coming out and saying "no children"  the clearest way is to get your point across is to not put the childrens names on the inner envelope or to just address the outer to Mr. and Mrs.  It’s possible some people still won’t understand, but it’s them that look rude, not you.  Hopefully your guests will look forward to a fun night – sans kids!

Post # 6
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

  • Only put the names of those invited on the envelope
  • on the RSVP only put ____ of 2 if the parents are invited
  • If doing a website, make the point clear there

Post # 7
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I think you’ve received some great advice here — make sure you check out the "related posts" at the bottom of the post … there have been a bunch of discussions about this!

Post # 9
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Say "Adult Only Reception"

And do the " _ seats have been reserved in your name" so they get the hint that it’s only for 2 people (or whatever).

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