(Closed) Kids With No Vaccines

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
2681 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

Assuming everyone else is likely vaccinated, everyone should be fine. Unless, of course, you’re worried about the children, but you shouldn’t be because that isn’t anything you can control and it’s a risk their mom is obviously willing to take.

Post # 4
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

It depends on the health/your relationship with the older folks and their health status.  I wouldn’t knowingly let unvaccinated children near my mother while she had chemo or around my baby nephews.  I’m not willing to risk getting immunocompromised folks sick because some nut job won’t vaccinate his/her kids.  

It it wouldn’t be the first place she wasnt allowed to bring ger kid.  None of the pediatricians around here will take on unvaccinated patients and many daycares won’t either 

Post # 5
6927 posts
Busy Beekeeper

BarbW:  Perhaps a child-free wedding? It sounds as if there is a great deal more going on than just a lack of vaccinations if the children are so frequently sick and spreading illness. Time for you and your Fiance to get your flu shots!

Post # 6
9089 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would probably try to limit proximity of the children with unvaccinated people. It really depends on how fragile these people are, or what their health is like. People undergoing chemo? There is no way I would allow these kids within a 20 mile radius of them. If the children are or have recently been actively sick that’s a very big risk.

Would it be possible to limit the children to one area so they’re not putting the others at too much risk? Maybe ask your fiancee to chat with their daughter about this? I don’t know how zealous your daughter in law to be is over anti-vaxxing, but I would want to hope that she would understand that some people don’t want to be exposed to potential sickness. That would be a very delicate and difficult subject to start, however.

Post # 7
3008 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

BarbW:  I would say exclude the unvaccinated children, and politely explain why. Your parents’ health (and the other elderly people) is more important.

Post # 11
5816 posts
Bee Keeper

stephanie091512:  No, being vaccinated yourself is not enough protection when around unvaccinated people. Vaccines are 97% -99% effective, generally, which still leaves 1-3% chance of contracting a disease you’ve been vaccinated against (I know someone this happened to and this info comes from a pediatrician). People who don’t vaccinate their children put their own children and others at risk.

Post # 12
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Aren’t parents required to have their kids up to date on all vaccines when they start school or daycare? 

Post # 13
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I would kindly explain the situation to her and ask her not to bring her unvaccinated children. Is it her choice not to vaccinate? Of course. But does this choice have consequences (apart from the obvious risk she’s already exposing her kids to)? 100%. 

Post # 14
2317 posts
Buzzing bee

You deserve a pat on the back for recognizing the public health threat of unvaccinated children.  I would ask the parent not to bring the children if they are sick or have been sick in the last 48hrs. 

Post # 15
1635 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Edited as I misread your earlier post, thinking that one of the unvaccinated children was in the wedding party.

They are your fiance’s grandchildren, so I’d have him handle the conversation, but the two of you have to be on the same page. There are people attending the wedding with compromised and/or vulnerable immune systems, so no unvaccinated children. Then, the invitation is sent only to those who are invited. It’s not an easy conversation to have, but it needs to be done and should be done by your fiance. I have friends who had one of their mothers living with them. When their young daughter was diagnosed with several medical conditions that left her with a fragile immune system, the Children’s Hospital said everyone in the household needed a flu shot and needed to be up to date on DPT (because of the whooping cough risk- not sure why that was a concern, as the child was vaccinated, but who was I to argue? Parents said medical professionals want to make sure everyone is vaccianted and has a flue shot, so we all went and did that). Everyone who spent time with the child (including me) pretty much right away went and got the flu shot and made sure our DPTs were current, EXCEPT the grandmother who lived with them who decided that she was now anti-vax. I am not kidding- she would not budge! So, they told her to move out. Hard conversations, but you have to protect those who cannot protect themselves.

Good luck!

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 5 months ago by  robsbeach.
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