(Closed) Kids With No Vaccines

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 31
11424 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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RobbieAndJuliahaha:  thanks for setting that record straight. Thanks to the anti-vaxxers, I got the whooping cough in Jan. It was brutal, hanging on for 6 weeks or so, and I’m a healthy person. It kills babies and older people.


ETA: Ironically I had been vaccinated for whooping cough but still got it. It happens. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 7 months ago by  BalletParker.
Post # 32
4426 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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echomomm:  Couldn’t agree more. OP, this is how it should be handled. Their mother made this choice and she has to live with the consequences of choosing not to vaccinate her children.

You can decide if it will be you or your fiance who informs her, but I would be straight up honest. We have a relative (kind of…married to my uncle by marriage after my aunt passed away) whose daughter has two children under 2 who are not vaccinated. If they are not vaccinated, our family will have to inform them they are not invited to our family Christmas event because my cousin’s daughter will be 8ish months and will not have had all of her immunizations yet and I will be heavily pregnant (due December 29th). We will not risk the safety of my baby cousin or my unborn/newborn child because of someone else’s choice. It’s tough, but every action has a consequence.

Post # 37
5221 posts
Bee Keeper

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BarbW:  Where is your Fiance on this issue? Since they are his grandkids, I’d think he should be the one to have the conversation with his daughter.

If these children are sick constantly, is there a medical reason why they aren’t vaccinated? You and your Fiance may want to approach it from the standpoint that you have sick relatives that may be a threat to them as well as vice versa. 


Post # 41
1635 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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BarbW:  Then, unfortunately, you have a bigger problem! To me, the two of you need to be on the same page, but he should have the conversation with his daughter about his grandchildren. How does he feel about having his grandchildren, and possibly his daughter, miss the wedding??

I absolutely agree that they should not come. You have elderly people and at least one young person attending with vulnerable or compromised immune systems. Ideally, he would sit her down and explain that due to these concerns, no unvaccinated children can attend and that he would understand if she chooses to stay home as well. I like another posters suggestion of making time to visit with all of them after, so the children don’t feel excluded (this isn’t their fault and it’s their grandfather). But, if your fiance isn’t on the same page with you, then that’s a big probelm. 


Post # 42
1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You need to let your Fiance know it’s not just for you. You’re thinking of anyone at your wedding with vulnerable immune systems. Your Fiance needs to tell his daughter that if the children are not vaccinated they are not welcome. If she wants them to be there, they’ll be vaccinated. If not, opt for a get together with them after the wedding.

Post # 43
7179 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would 100% tell her that her unvaccinated kids are not invited to the wedding. Tell her exactly what you told us.

Post # 44
2552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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BarbW:  I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.  I have no advice, but I just couldn’t help but comment that if this woman won’t vaccinate her children to protect kids with cancer, but she will vaccinate them to go to Disney World, she may just be the most selfish person I’ve ever heard of.

Post # 45
2002 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

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BalletParker:  I had whooping cough a couple of years back. Horrible. I thought I was going to die one night when I couldn’t catch my breath. I work in a small town that has one of the lowest uptakes of vaccinations in the UK *sigh*

No way should they attend OP. Good luck with the conversation.

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