(Closed) Kids/No kids dilemma

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you’d be okay since the kids you want to invite all belong to people in the wedding party. It seems like that would be a good “cutting off” point.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Are the 3 nephews and niece a part of the wedding at all?  I’m doing adults only, with the exception of my 4 cousins and his niece and nephew, and they all have some part in the wedding.  The boys are ushers, his niece is our flower girl and my girl cousin is a bridesmaid.  I think if they are close family that they will be fine.  But you will ned to be firm if people start asking about their kids coming or reply with more people than you intendid.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We are in the same dilemma.  I’ve decided it’s not fair to our other guests if we have some kids and not allow others to come.  I would say either all or nothing.  You may have some angry guests if you tell everyone its an Adult-only reception and then there are kids running around.  My sister-in-law had that problem.

Its hard to tell family their kids arent included but I look at it this way: I want their parents to have a nice time, not chasing their kids around all night.  I just make sure I let everyone know in advance (via save the date) so they can make arrangements for a sitter.  Good luck!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I think it’s completely fine to have just the nephews/nieces attend without all other children.  People understand limits around inviting too many people. 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Fiance and I went through this dilemma too. If we had invited kids, there would literally have been 30 children, but my Fiance and I have 2 nephews who we love to death, and our wedding wouldn’t be the same without them. Since we really can’t afford the extra (28) kids, we are inviting only adults. We’re hoping that if guests don’t understand, they’ll ask, and be understanding of the relationship we have with out nephews. I’d say it’s perfectly acceptable to take the same road that we did, even if not all of the kids have a part in the wedding 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We are having no kids with the exception of my nephew. My family is huge and there are just too many kids. We figure given the advance notice people can find sitters and just enjoy a kid free evening. Saying it is a space issue should be enough.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think you would be fine saying it’s a space issue. And I totally agree that having the kids of the wedding party is a good cut off point.

Another suggestion:

If there’s an extra room available and you have the funds, perhaps you could have a kids room, where you have a few sitters watch all the children at the wedding. Any parents with kids will probably really appreciate having a place where their kids will be having a good time while they get to enjoy their own adult time.

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