(Closed) Kids/No Kids

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I know other people will say that you can make an exception for family, but I personally don’t think it’s fair, so I would say that if you’re inviting your cousins, you should invite all children.

However, in terms of inviting infants but not children over 2, I think that’s fine. So I think it’s fine, whichever way you choose to go.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

we can’t add kids because of the size of our venue, we are already at capacity with guests, and to add kids would have meant not having adults there that we wanted there. So I have my niece as flowergirl and that’s it, I have explained in my invites that we cannot invite children due to venue restrictions and left it at that, if people don’t come because of that, then I respect that it’s their decision 🙂 we’re inviting people from South Africa that have children and will include details of highly recommended babysitting services that they can use for the day of the wedding, if they do fly over to join us.

I appreciate it’s a big ask of us, but we really have no choice 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m in nearly the same situation.  Our guest list is around 200, and if we allowed children, they would comprise nearly 25% of the guests!  No thanks!  Our venue is small and can literally only seat 190 for the ceremony.  Anyone else would have to stand in another room and watch the ceremony on a TV monitor.  There is no way that I am having one of my adult relatives or friends have to stand in the other room because a toddler is using up a chair!  For our immediate family, we are allowing children (our 3 neices and 4 nephews), and I think that is totally acceptable.  For everyone else, we are inviting couples only.  Since etiquette sites have said it’s potentially rude to note “adults only” or “no children” on an invitation, we’re hoping that people get the hint when the RSVP card states “2 seats have been reserved in your honor”.  As a back-up plan, I’ve hired a nanny to be at the wedding venue, so that any kids that end up arriving can be ushered downstairs. 🙂

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I always say that weddings are not for children. I however, made a few exceptions on my weddign day. My youngest sister is 10 (9 at the time) so she was there obviously. My SIL has two daughters 7 and 9 and they were both there and so was my BIL’s daughter who is 3. Other than that there were no children allowed. I think exceptions can be made when its close family members. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are also doing no children except for niece and nephews. Then our guest list is ONLY cousins and aunts. No children of cousins. We will have some infants around, but we are not inviting them at all. 

I think you really need to have a clear cut off when you do this sort of wedding. No children of cousins means no children of cousins for any guest, no matter what the age or circumstance. A child might be needy no matter what age they are, so it’s hard to say that an 18 month year old has more right to be at a wedding than a 4 year old. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I invited my nieces and nephews over 8. The threeEthan are 1 or younger are not invited. I invited all my second cousins (5). My Fiance family is 1/3 the guest list. I had to balance out the family…..

Post # 10
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352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I invited my nieces and nephews over 8. The threeEthan are 1 or younger are not invited. I invited all my second cousins (5). My Fiance family is 1/3 the guest list. I had to balance out the family…..

 

Our guest list is 66

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