(Closed) Kilt Dilemma…

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 17
126 posts
Blushing bee

cdohertyx3:  If you think it would help, you could always Google for UK photographers and I can guarantee you will find Roman Catholic weddings in the UK with a groom in a kilt. I’m not sure if that would be enough to convince your mother, but it might be worth a shot.

Post # 19
9528 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

It sounds like when my mother said that fictional thriller books were satanic because she did not want me to read them in junior high. So silly and completely unfounded. Both she, and your mother were looking for a stupid excuse to get their way. 

Post # 20
8308 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Just when you think you have  heard it all, you hear this,…..Kilts, Satanic   wtf!!!! .Also, kilts are most definitely NOT women’s clothing, nor ever were. (long gowns however,  for men , in Biblical times,  yes. )

 OP’s mother might consider herself a ‘strict’ Catholic but she sure  isn’t  a knowledgeble one. 

The only reason for doubt in wearing one would  be if the wearer has no clan affiiliation   and is just  wearing it because it looks good  .

Post # 21
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I think this is your own parents weird beliefs rather than something associated with organized religion. You are having a Catholic ceremony? Have the priest explain to your parents that the Church finds it completely acceptable for men to wear kilts. 

Post # 22
2325 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

You don’t have a “kilt problem”, you have a mother problem.


Post # 23
2950 posts
Sugar bee

Do you know what Scottish men tradituonally wear under a kilt?

Absolutely nothing!

I hope that you mention this fact to your mòther.

Post # 24
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

In Scotland, formal dress is a kilt rather than a suit or a tux.  I have a friend who went to university there and he had to wear a kilt for graduation.  And actually at my MA graduation in England several people wore them because you can wear your national dress if you like, and they were Irish or Scottish.  

Post # 25
1042 posts
Bumble bee

Supersleuth:  i seriously doubt OP wants her mom thinking of what’s underneath her Fiance kilt!

Post # 26
2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

A kilt?  COOL!!! Your mom is bored,  and is looking for something to discuss.  Ignore all  that nonsense and let him wear a kilt. A kilt has nothing to do with devil,  I promise.    I can’t wait to see photos! (And by the way, he can still wear his regular underwear or  boxers underneath 😉  )

Post # 27
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I *did* read an article about a young man who was banned from attending a home-schooler’s prom because he wanted to wear a kilt. The prom organizers (obviously they were very, very conservative Christians) considered it female clothing.

Which makes no sense, considering male/female clothing is culturally specific. Kilts are very masculine, in my opinion! Not to mention that Jesus was not wearing pants himself.

But anyway, I *have* heard that before.

But I am surprised your Catholic mother thought that, and, anyway, who cares? It’s your wedding and your husband.

Post # 28
1204 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Malibou Lake Mountain Club

MrsSapphire:  his wedding too. He should be able to celebrate and feel comfortable, and have his own take just like we do with our dresses. Its a silly argument and reason that was given

Post # 29
3415 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

That is ridiculous. Her religion has nothing to do with Irish customs. You may want to point out that there are many men in Ireland who wear kilts and are catholic. 

Skirts have nothing to do with the devil and she knows it full well. Surely she was just trying to get an emotional response so that you don’t do something “weird”. 

It’s is wedding just as much as it is yours. I think a wedding symbolizes the melding together of two people and their lives, including traditons and interests. That’s a part of his life. 

But maybe take pics with pants and kilts so your mom can have some to hang up in her house, if that’s important to you.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 8 months ago by  lovelyruby.
Post # 30
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

MrsSapphire:  Your mom is being a dumb dumb.  Just ignore her.  It sounds like she’s just being closed minded.  I think her first comment belies her REAL concern that kilts are for “weridos” and that she’d be embarassed to see your Darling Husband wearing one.

I’m generally all for taking family opinions into account as I really feel that weddings are about joining two families, NOT about the wishes of only the B&G…but this is just stupid.  This is an item of cultural importance to your DH!  I’d set a boundary with her that she doesn’t get to decide on this one.

She doesn’t have to like it, but I’d tell her that your Fiance will wear what he chooses, end of discussion.

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