Post # 1
For a while I was absolutely thrilled with wedding details – planning, looking at things online – and now, I’m far more interested in other projects.
Is anyone else experiencing this? It’s not that I don’t care at all, it’s just I’m far more interested in the book I’m writing at the moment…and I feel like I should be more focused on my wedding.
FYI – I’m getting married in May next year.
Post # 3
I love these honest posts. I hated wedding planning. I can’t wait for it to be over. There were way too many details and we even cut out a lot of the more tedious parts of planning. Good for you, focus on your book. Plan the wedding that fits into your life right now.
Post # 4
Oh my goodness I know exactly how you feel. I’m in a rut, don’t feel like doing nothing wedding related. So I’m taking a break from all my planning and then I’ll go back into it in a couple of weeks or so.
Post # 5
It’s okay, you’re not alone!!! I usually love planning events (I do it as part of my job!) but with my own wedding, I’m finding it…dull? I don’t know if that’s the right word, but I’m really looking forward to the day after the wedding when I don’t have to worry about pleasing everyone, the budget, getting the projects done, etc. I’m such a worry wort and even though everyone has been commenting on how calm I’m being, it’s really because I am just looking forward to being married. I wish I knew this before we started planning it all…Fiance always wanted a small, Destination Wedding. I said no way! He was right…
Post # 6
I’m feeling a little fatigued. I have other things to focus on: school, Fiance, work. So, we’re taking a break from planning until next year – right after we finalize a few details in early October. I’m tired of having “Bride Brain.”
Post # 7
I felt the exact same way at this point last year. You have plenty of time, I would just take a break from wedding stuff for a few weeks.
P.S. I think one of the best parts of being married is I don’t have to plan a wedding anymore
Post # 8
@LGenz: Your wedding date was on my birthday! 🙂 Ok back to the topic…
I completely understand this! I booked the biggies (vendors) and now I feel so unmotivated for the other stuff. I agree on taking time off from the wedding mindset. I’m still on my break (this is one of the few ‘wedding’ related things I do right now). 🙂 The fact that weddings can be a lot of money is pretty daunting too. I try not to stress out too much..yet
Post # 9
@Melie12: I’m with you. I got all the biggies covered (minus hair and makeup, which is just daunting because I don’t trust anyone at all) and now its all about the small things. In the meantime, my best friend recently got engaged and is planning a wedding for three months after mine and I just can’t get excited to talk about either of our weddings. Especially because we talk about mostly trivial things that don’t matter, like bm dress colors and save the dates. I don’t care about these little things at all right now. I know in the scheme of things they don’t really matter.
Post # 9
I was just in this sick-of-wedding-planning rut a few months ago. I took several weeks off from anything wedding related and it helped. I am back into the planning mode again though because I have to book a venue like, this weekend. eek. But that break was definitely what I needed.
Post # 10
I think it’s probably very normal to feel like you do. Our wedding is a week ago, and I have spanned from loving it and pouring over every blog and magazine to being overwhelmed, to being bored, to sheer exhaustion, to actuallying saying “I hate our wedding” and now I’m mostly back to really, really excited about it and really, really excited to have it over with. I think you should definitely keep doing the things that you’re passionate about and let the wedding get done in your extra time. I wasn’t very good about that. I’ve pretty much just lived and breathed wedding for the last six months.
At the very least, just take a break from it all for a bit. When it comes down to the weeks before the wedding, you will be swamped and exhausted, and you’ll be glad you took a break and focused on other things.
Post # 11
Count me in too. Ended up buying a house and getting a promotion at work, so my life has been occupied with other things. I just can’t bring myself to be concerned over the color of my napkins lol.
Post # 12
Yay! Thank you guys…it’s nutty too, the wedding is all my family wants to talk about, but I want to go on about the book, work, playing D&D, movies, tv, wrestling, etc….basically anything BUT the wedding, ha!
I might try to focus on one thing at a time…like Save-The-Date Cards next month, then cake stuff, etc. I’m so glad to hear I’m not the only one who responded with a shrug when it came to wedding stuffs…
Post # 13
I have been engaged for almost three years. I am so sick of even thinking wedding. And I can’t make decisions on things at all. Like even dates. So I have been in an endless cycle of planning for a long time. And it sucks.
Post # 14
I’m sure all of us hit a rut in planning a wedding. It’s hard to stay super motivated over the course of several months – some official bees have blogged about their experience.
I think taking time off from planning, not reading much related to weddings, and only tackling small tasks might help. Recharge your batteries.
I hope you’ll feel more motivated again soon!