(Closed) Kind of bummed out…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
2258 posts
Buzzing bee

I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your losses. I can’t imagine how hard it is, especially with your wedding approaching. Are you close to your FI’s family at all? ::HUGS::

Post # 4
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

BabyDeer9:  I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way! I lost my mom about 4.5 years ago and wedding planning is really hard without her. I have no siblings, and my dad is still living, but lives out of state, so I have been going through planning without any family present. I have been trying to include my fiance and his family, and use this as an opportunity to get closer to them. I know my Future Mother-In-Law was really surprised but also very flattered when I asked her to come dress shopping with me. And I don’t know how you feel about the presence of those who have passed away, but I have been using this time to allow myself to remember some good times with my mom and try to refelct on what she would think if she were involved. Maybe it sounds silly, but it has been comforting. 

As for having a wedding without your family there, maybe it would help to focus on the new family you are creating as you and your fiance join your lives? I’m sure your parents would be very happy for you and would want you to enjoy this time. However, if you really don’t feel like having a wedding is the right choice for you at this time, I’m sure your family would understand if you do a romantic elopement with your fiance.

Post # 5
1265 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

BabyDeer9:  What a sad post – I am so sorry for your losses and wish there was something more I could offer. I can certainly understand why you would be feeling the way you are right now.

Even if the only reason you want to go through with the wedding event itself is because of your FH, I think that’s a good one! It is a beautiful occasion to offer your partner.

I can only imagine how you must feel a month out from losing your father, but do keep in mind that you could be feeling quite different 9 months from now. That’s not to say that it won’t be hard to have a wedding without your parents, but with some distance from your immediate grief, you may be grateful for the opportunity to celebrate such a significant positive event in your life.

By April next year, it may also be the perfect time to reinforce the relationships with the family you do have, and the family you will be gaining. What better way to strengthen these new connections then to officially celebrate them? 

I absolutely appreciate the sadness that must accompany what is meant to be such a happy and joyous time for you right now, but I hope that in time you will be able to find away to also embrace the positive and exciting aspects of your wedding. Of course, it really all comes back to how you feel about everything – if planning/having this wedding is causing you more heartache than happiness, listen to that and have an honest talk with your partner about alternatives.

Wishing you the very best of luck!

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