Post # 32
You took all the words out of my mouth. That is EXACTLY how I felt!
I’ve come to terms with it though, and I am now just focusing on the wedding. I have absolutely ZERO expectations for wedding gifts or money or anything like that. I am just going to enjoy myself and not care!
Thanks again bees for your support and encouragement. And for not thinking I am a spoiled brat !
Post # 33
Glad I could be of service ;). And the most important thing is that it doesn’t change how YOU act to others in the future at bridal showers…. I have always made sure to send out my RSVPs early, to get nice gifts off the registry if I’m invited to a bridal shower, etc. but I will be extra sure to respect perspective and retain my integrity. I think this gives you some great perspective for the big day, so you can really enjoy the moment and not fret about the little things 🙂
Post # 34
I’d be ecstatic at a bridal shower let alone 10 gifts, BUT THAT is because it is not the norm in the UK and it would be a complete surprise! That does not happen in the UK at all really…… The wedding is where people will buy you gifts and to be honest, even for my wedding I am not hinting or asking for them, as I am having a Destination Wedding wedding which costs money for my guests, plus we have all our house hold stuff.
IF people do get gifts, I would much rather they be EXPERIENCES, like a weekend away, massage, swimming with dolphins, etc, we don’t need ‘things’:) – I am that type of giver too, I like to create photo albums, buy experiences for couples, make things or maybe get concert tickets to their fav band or something. But I guess if you are a younger couple, then getting set up for your home would be a preference and it’s more traditional.
Post # 35
I’m with you on the no phone call thing. If you’re a close friend of mine and you RSVP no to something, I’d like to hear from you, too!
As far as shower gifts go, I typically spend no more than $30 on them and then spend $100-$150 on a wedding gift! I just can’t afford more. If you are inviting twenty-somethings to your shower, I would imagine many of them may be in the same boat.
I’m so glad your parents pulled through! I would just expect more as wedding gifts.