Post # 31
I am saying this with love… you are reading far to much into a non situation. Stop being your own bully. Just wait until you start planning a wedding. If you keep with “they might think” mentality wedding planning will drive you insane. Take what people say at face value. Especially if they have a negative opinions you just need to be able to shrug it off. Opinions are like buttholes, everyone has one and they all stink. Can’t let it get you down, especially when it doesn’t exist
Post # 32
I can understand feeling a little embarrassed (I was too the first time my fiance advertised I picked the ring), but there’s truly no need to be! Side note: when he told his mother that I picked the ring, she said “Good! The men in this family are notorious for being hopeless at these things!” (he’s the youngest of 3 boys).
Post # 33
I picked mine, otherwise he would have just gone for the biggest, most expensive and likely ugliest one in the shop.
*disaster averted *phew
Post # 34
hehe ok ok i wont be embarassed anymore…Yea i was very involved in the ring process but its only bc i am very picky. I dont wear jewelry at all…not even earrings! So if its a jewelry that i will be wearing, I have to absolutely love it, but thats how i see it.
Post # 35
hahah thats hilarious!! Yea sometimes guys tend to “over-compensate” for sure.
Post # 36
I’m going against the grain and do feel the way you are suggesting your FIL’s feel when I hear that the woman picked out her ring. Just my take on things. My DH picked mine out and did a weekend get-away surprise proposal so I was not a part of the proposal besides saying yes!
You made the decision to pick out your own engagement ring now you just have to stand behind it!
Post # 38
Hi there. I think you should take a deep breath, RELAX about your ring, and let yourself enjoy the rest of your engagement. You’re about to get married to someone you love! Focus on that! Don’t let an object get in the way of savoring the good stuff in life, you know?
Many congratulations on your engagement!
Post # 39
That is so funny, I picked out the exact ring for my SO to buy and it was from James Allen too! I am not embarrassed or ashamed at the slightest, my SO really wasnt sure what I would like and didnt want to just shoot in the dark for such an expensive and life long purchase. I think if you dont feel comfortable about the topic let your SO know so you are on the same page and there are no more repeatting situations. As for my SO he has all the decision making and planning regarding the actual proposal, i have no idea when/where. But never feel ashamed you were mature adults and discussed big ventures together!
Post # 40
Don’t worry about it! For some people it’s a total surprise and for others its the exact opposite. You ended up with the ring you love and will wear forever. I’ve seen a lot of people on here wondering what to do about getting a ring they don’t like. You have just one less thing to worry about! Oh and also, even though you picked it.. he still had the final say, right? So really, you suggested it, and HE still picked it. Just another way to think about it
Post # 41
I’m probably not saying anything that hasnt already been said… but it’s 2016, most girls pick out or at least heavily influence the choosing of their e-rings No worries, OP.
Funny story… I picked out my GORGEOUS e-ring, and then like two months later Fiance proposed with a fake ring from like JC Penney or something. Because my ring had finally been ordered and was being made (he totally coulda waited till it was ready to propose, but he gets hung up on weird things like the date he was asking me, whatevs). ANYWAY, the ring shows up and not only did he order the wrong size (by A LOT), but i hated the ring in person (he ordered online from Brilliant Earth). The setting, which i chose because it was bezel-set, low-profile, etc… it let almost ZERO light in, so the stone was all dull looking. So, back to my fake ring I went. We found a BE showroom in Boston and went down to look in person. Picked out a ring that i never would have selected online, and it finally came around April10th (proposal was Feb 28th). All our friends/family/coworkers think the story is hilarious… like “OMG Sandra, ring NUMBER THREE!?!?!? are you happy yet? LOLOL”
So yeah, don’t be embarassed, you’re totally fine. 🙂