Post # 1
Member
1546 posts
Bumble bee
Background: I’m recently engaged, love my ring, its nothing crazy but I would say average size or a little above average for my area and age. My nail tech has been married for many years and has a child w/hubby.
Ok, so I got engaged & Fiance proposed with an emerald cut diamond. I had never even considered this cut for my ring but I love it and have become really interested in seeing similar step cuts since its not too popular right now. My nail tech a few months ago got a gorgeous new ring from her hubby, we believe it to be a band of assher cut diamonds (it was an estate ring). The diamonds are pretty big for a band and just beautiful. I gushed about her ring the moment I saw it b/c I had never seen a step-cut band like it or that big. Her hubby got it for her b/c now that she’s pregnant with their 2nd child her original engagement ring doesn’t fit. Anyhoo, I went home that night after my nails were done and told Fiance what a pretty ring she got etc. Never implying that I wanted such a thing, just that it was beautuiful and I was happy for her.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago, Fiance and I go out to dinner. We run into nail tech and her hubby and they come over to the bar to chat. This being the first time Fiance has met Nail tech I introduce them and while chatting I tell Fiance to look at her beautiful new ring. Well she refuses to show him, and hides her hand. Normally i would have found this weird but I was on my third and last margarita and didnt think anything of it so just went on to the next topic of conversation. Well I didnt think anyhting of it until last night when she brought it up. She says to me “When we saw you the other week and you started to tell your Fi to look at my ring, well I didn’t want him to see it b/c I didnt want to make him feel bad”. I didn’t know what to say, I just kinda sat there and finally trying to make it sound less offensive in my head. Finally I said “my ring is perfect for me & he would have nothing to feel bad about”. She then said it was indeed perfect for me & that was it. Driving home I was kinda irritated & the more I thought about it, the more the comment irritated me. Maybe I took it the wrong way? Or maybe she was taking a little dig at me?! Which I was kind of thinking of her as a friend lately since we sometimes text and we chat for 1.5 hours every other week when she does my nails. Either way I just wanted to share b/c I would never vent about it to Fiance in fear of hurting his feelings when in fact they should never be hurt. Anyhoo, thanks for letting me vent ladies! Maybe I’m just being touchy?
Post # 3
Member
2512 posts
Sugar bee
I think that sometimes people say things without realizing it will hurt the other person.
I wouldn’t think anything of it honestly.
Post # 4
Member
5653 posts
Bee Keeper
I don’t think she intentionally meant to hurt you, but she implied that your ring is not as nice as hers, probably without realizing what she was really saying.
I would probably stew about it for a while and then get over it. You know your ring is awesome and that is all that matters. 🙂
Post # 5
Member
1664 posts
Bumble bee
I don’t know, that’s weird, I’d be reacting the same way you are. It sounds like she was taking a dig at you for whatever reason. I guess just try not to let it bother you, unless she keeps it up.
Post # 6
Member
8734 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
@nickels: That comment would have upset me/rubbed me the wrong way too.
Maybe she had a past experience with her hubby (when they were younger) where she told him about someone else’s ring and he felt bad after he saw it?
You aren’t wrong for feeling the way you do, but I wouldn’t bring it up/discuss it with her unless something like this happens again.
I think the way you responded was perfect and very mature.
Post # 7
Member
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
Um… yea I think thats really weird. And kind of rude. But people are just weird about jewelry/money/whatever. I’d try to forget about it 🙂
Post # 8
Member
713 posts
Busy bee
That exchange is kind of weird. But don’t worry too much about it. Maybe she read too much into you gushing over her ring. She may have thought you were jealous or that your Fiance would be upset.
Post # 9
Member
7774 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
I don’t know that she really meant it to be offensive, but I think I would have been annoyed too. Some people just don’t fully think before they speak.
Post # 10
Member
1546 posts
Bumble bee
Thanks bees! Now that I know I’m not the only one who would feel that way makes me feel better & now I don’t have to sit here and stew about it & its possible meaning haha. She is really a nice person so maybe she just had a judgement lapse when it comes to manners.
Post # 10
Member
1546 posts
Bumble bee
Oops, my busy fingers made a double post.
Post # 11
Member
1546 posts
Bumble bee
Bees, I just wanted to say that I’m so happy to have your input. I’ve never joined a message board/ online community before this and only found this while searching for engagement ring info. I lurked for a while and gathered info, but now that I’ve finally posted a few times, I’ve come to realize you guys rock! It would be so easy to be mean & negative on these boards but I would have to say 99% of the time I find your posts funny, thoughtful, knowledgable & supportive. Yay for all the bees in the hive!
Post # 12
Member
8734 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
@nickels: Thanks and welcome!
I feel that way about the boards too. (Hence why I’ve got so many posts!!)
Post # 13
Member
462 posts
Helper bee
I would be offended also but she probably didn’t maen it to hurt you.
Post # 14
Member
5887 posts
Bee Keeper
i’d be more annoyed about her hiding her hand than the comment after. weirdo.
Post # 15
Member
9815 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
It doesn’t sound like an intentional dig.