(Closed) kind of jealous…vent

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

Aw. I hate feeling jealous. ๐Ÿ™ I also hate catty girls!

Post # 4
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@vanilla44:  she talked to him and not you?!?! im sure its nothing but keep your eyes open on that one i dont like it one bit. im sorry to say that but thats not good. 

Post # 5
335 posts
Helper bee

I would definitely be wary of her, even if she is a bitch, it looks like she might be a little jealous, too, in the, “You lucky bitch,” way.

Post # 6
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

Now.  Playing Devils Advocate here, perhaps she’s just shy.  I myself am very quiet around people I don’t know, socially awkward you may say, but once I warm up to a person I’m more friendly and outgoing.  It’s possible she just didn’t know who you where and wasn’t sure how to talk to you but since she’s worked with your hubby for so long she can talk to him much easier.  There may be other reasons for her attitude other then she likes your husband in a way that you could be jealous over.

Post # 8
1094 posts
Bumble bee

@vanilla44:  I totally understand your feeling. DH owns his own business and one of his departments comprises of not one, but two pretty girls!! He also travels with them (and other male employees) to a trade show once a year. At the end of the day, you trust your DH and that’s the most important! But I know how you feel: I feel silly for being jealous because I trust my DH but I can’t help it!

Post # 10
3728 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Ok, so Fiance is an engineer at a cool company. I know there are a lot of engineers on the board, and they are lovely, but I have found that engineers don’t have the best social skills and female engineers have had to put up with a ton of shit to get where they are, so they lack sweetness. A hard edge + lack of social skills may come off as off putting, but I’m sure it wasn’t her intent. I wouldn’t be worried.

Post # 11
9967 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Pollywog:  My DH is an engineer also and I’ve noticed the same sort of gruff/tough quality in a couple of his female engineer colleagues, so maybe you’re right and it goes with the territory.  It’s not the easiest job in the world, either, so I’m sure that doesn’t help, along with being a minority in the field, as a woman.


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@vanilla44:  ((HUGS))  I’m so sorry you’re missing your DH, I know it sucks having to be apart.  I wouldn’t read too much into the intern’s attitude, most likely it has nothing to do with you or your DH. 

Post # 12
1462 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sweetie, your present made her jealous because he chose you. She knows you are his type and not matter what she tries she will never measure up to you and she know it. You have nothing to be jealous about she is working and your husband has given you a lifestyle she wishes she had.

Post # 13
69 posts
Worker bee

If anything, I would be HAPPY to find out she is a bitch because she obviously has made herself much less attractive to those who know her ~ that is reason to feel less jealous about her, imo.  I know some people lack social skills but it sounds like she was outright rude to you.  

Post # 14
2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I work with almost all men and there is definitely a tougher side of me that has to come out when working with them. 

Not to come across as rude, but when you said you “smiled” at her, was that before or after you gave the up-and-down and stink eye? C’mon, be honest! Catty behavior is a two way street and she might have picked up the vibes from you too. 

Either way, at least you met her and can now put a face to the name. It’s not worth your effort to be upset over it, especially as they are traveling in a group.

Post # 15
49 posts

I don’t blame you for feeling jealous at all. It’s natural and I would feel the same way. My Fiance is an engineer as well so he doesn’t work with many women either. But when this new girl started around his age and he was training her I was super jealous and idk why. He wanted me, he loved me and to be honest she wasn’t that attractive. But it was just the thought of him spending 8-9 hours a day with another woman that made me insecure. It’s natural. But, I wouldn’t worry about it! And if at all possible keep how your jealousy a secret to him and vent to us bees ๐Ÿ™‚

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