Post # 1
Darling Husband and I were jokingly talking about being cremated or buried the other day and I said the idea of being buried really creeped me out. I told him “well, I actually guess we both need to know what we want if something happens to us” So, Darling Husband gets very serious and tells me that he thinks burial is a waste of resources/land/casket/etc. He said he wanted me to make sure all of his usable organs were donated–everything can go, even skin (which I already knew; we’re both organ donors). But then he says to me: “whatever they take, just make sure they preserve the integrity of my bones”. Um okay, why, honey? “I want you to try to find someone to make me into one of those classroom skeletons”. I just about died laughing, and he is dead serious.
My husband wants to be a classroom skeleton. I don’t know if this is possible, but I”m supposed to “try everything I can”. I can’t be that surprised, nerdy science-guy-future-doctor that he is. But wow.
Any “last wishes” from your SO or anyone else that made you chuckle?
Post # 3
It’s in my will that I should go to a “body farm” which is where scientists and police test the effects of various elements (wind, rain, sunlight, being buried under leaves, etc) on dead bodies. I think if my “remains” can help investigators solve crimes more efficiently and accurately, it’s a pretty good use of what’s no longer needed by me.
Post # 4
@fishbone: That’s very interesting!! I think that’s a good way to help society after you’re gone 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Mr. Lk doesn’t have any wishes that made me giggle, but we both know what the other wants. In fact we just re-discussed that topic this weekend with my brother and SIL. The four of us made it clear so that the others knew what we wanted, just in case a couple were to die together. Now we could advocate for their wishes, and they for ours. Which reminds me that we really need to have wills drawn up. We really are slackers on that front.
FWIW, I think your husband’s classroom skeleton idea is awesome. I always assumed they were made of plastic???
Post # 6
I don’t find any option to be overly appealing but I’ve let it be known that I want to be cremated. I can’t think of a bigger waste of money than some several thousand dollar wooden box that will be buried for all of eternity. Um, no thank you. Take that money and go on a cruise or something. As for Darling Husband, he wants to be cremated as well.
The only weird request that I’ve gotten was from my mother. She also wants to be cremated (can you tell that we all think burials are a rip off? Lol) but she doesn’t want me to waste my money on some fancy urn. She said, and I quote, “I’m sure I’ve got some nice tin in the basement that I would fit comfortably in. Just make sure it’s an antique.”. Ooook, Mom.
Post # 7
@lovekiss: I assumed they were too, and I told him that. He was very adamant that I should look into it and try to make it happen. I need to clarify with him about what to do with his skeleton if he can’t, in fact realize his dream of being a classroom skeleton.
I really am not making light of my husband’s wishes, I will absolutely do this for him if it’s possible but I seriously cannot stop laughing when I think of him on a little skeleton aparatus, teaching people about all of the bones
Post # 8
Yep- I’ve always been adament that I want to be cremated after organ donations (no need to bury me in a box to keep forever), but Darling Husband wants his body to be donated to science. He really really wants to be a cadavre in an anatomy lab for college students, which totally creeps me out, but whatever he wants! I just think it’s so strange that he wants to be dissected.
Post # 9
@UpstateCait: I am with you on the opinions of burials.
BUT…originally he wanted to be cremated (we both do) until he thought up the skeleton idea. He SERIOUSLY wanted me to put his ashes in a coffee can to pay homage to The Big Lebowski. Sigh.
Post # 10
@ruby26: I wouldn’t be surprised if Darling Husband opted for that if his dreams of skeleton-hood can’t be realized. I told him the other day I was wondering about the cadavers in the anatomy lab he’ll be working on this upcoming med school year. Were they doctors? Scientists? People interested in medicine? Or are they just all types of people who want to help students learn anatomy and discover things about the human body. I just think it would be really interesting to learn about WHY those people opted to donate their bodies to science that way.
Post # 11
great topic!I have discussed this too w/ my Fiance, parents, brother etc. Everyone should know ur plans, just incase when time comes to it. It will not be a shock to parents or others.
It is great to be able to say that u want to donate your organs, but depending on how one died. They might not be actually used, ie with infection, heart attack, stroke, etc. So have a back up plan. ie) donating to research or to a university.
I am so happy u have talked about this. There are so many people who haen’t discussed this, that whensomething happens they have NO idea, what to do.
Post # 12
@lovekiss: In our anatomy lab, we had a couple of real skeletons then lots and lots of plastic bits and pieces, but both of the full out, articulated skeletons we had were real!
I have told my family and Darling Husband before “Take everything they can use and burn the rest.” Also, not big on ashes sitting somewhere so scatter them somewhere cool.
Of course, I also think it would be kind of fun to be buried with lots of stuff saying how important I was and all that, in a coffin that will be sure to last so that in 2-5000 years when someone is digging up graves for research, they think I was someone important and I can tell history however I wanted it. Also, burrying something like LOTR or other fantasy books with me so they don’t know if it is history or not.
Post # 13
This topic has been on our minds a lot lately– especially since we are burying DHs granny tomorrow and we are the ones who arranged her funeral. I have no problem being cremated and I do not want to be kept of life support for the sole purpose of just extending the inevitable.
Post # 14
Fiance and I haven’t gotten too much into it, but my father has a ridiculous request. He wants me to make sure his body is burned on a pyre in the woods. Not joking. He is adamant about it. I’ve told him that is illegal and I could end up in jail but he doesn’t care. He just keeps saying, but you have to do this because I’m asking and I’m your father!
Post # 15
@thegreeneyedkri: hahahah OMG!! I hope you don’t mind me laughing!! What are you going to do if he refuses to acknowledged that this is illegal and you might not be able to do it? Any particular reasons why he wants this??
Post # 16
I want to be cremated and scattered at Friar’s Bay in St Maarten. I would rather the money go for a vacation instead of a funeral.
What I do want is a great wake. Instead of a casket with my waxy corpse put a picture of me looking nice on the bar and put a drink beneath the picture. Then I want everyone to get drunk and tell funny stories about me.
I hate funerals and do believe in a life everlasting so party on!