(Closed) Kind of sad.. and TMI for some, explicit, don’t read if you really don’t want to

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I know that sometimes, he might move a certain way, or get to…overzealous, and hurt me. Its been so bad that we had to wait like a week to have sex again. But, I don’t have endo, so I’m hoping that is all that happened this time, since you say it isn’t always like that.


Post # 4
585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@StefLovesJamie:  go get a second opinion you might have endometriosis which is what i had and i had minor minor surgery to laser burn it out. 

Post # 5
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

With no way to put this delicately…could it have something to do with lubrication?  The fact that this is a new experience in your relationship could be a testiment to how much you care about your new guy, and perhaps how much more he turns you on…maybe you’ve always just been very ‘ready to go’ with him.  There are many factors that can make us less…moist (sorry!) than usual…Birth control, alchohol, stress, getting a little older.

I feel your pain on the UTIs. 

It is nice to hear that your guy is so in tune with you and sensative enough to stop right away.  I think sometimes we put up with pain that we shouldn’t.  It’s okay to tell him it hurts, and ask him to stop.  Maybe you just need a little more foreplay!

Good luck.


Post # 6
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had issues until my endo was removed. It might be worth it for you to check into

Post # 7
4606 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Did you overdo it perhaps?

I have endometriosis and sex for me was also quite painful. I found an OBGYN that would listen to me and had an ultrasound done. Turns out I had a grapefruit sized cyst on my Fallopian tube and it was pressing on all the wrong things. Of course, my doctor didn’t know this until after he started the surgery. He was originally removing ovarian cysts because the location of Fallopian cyst made it look like my uterus on the ultrasound. After it was removed and I healed, I had pain free sex and I haven’t had any pain since.

I’m not trying to say this is what’s going on with you by any means, but have you had an ultrasound done?

Post # 8
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I don’t want to share personal details on the board but Darling Husband and I just got married and we were both virgins and yeah.. that pain isn’t only one time. People have given me many suggestions. In the end, I’m gritting my teeth and keeping at it. If it doesn’t stop after a certain amount of time I may have to see someone about it.

If you haven’t felt pain in the past with this boyfriend then what was different about this past time? I know it’s scary and is drudging up all your past times, but if it really never did hurt with this boyfriend then I think you should examine what was different this time – even possibly just the way you were feeling or your mental state. Try as hard as you can not to close yourself up to him and yourself. Try to be as in tune with your body as you can.

Post # 10
1767 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I also suggest getting a second opinion… I also have a lot of pain with sex, but it only developed recently. It turns out that I have a golfball-sized cyst that is causing all of the pain with everything, and they think it will be fine as soon as they remove it this summer. Not saying that’s your problem, but there are tons of random things that could be going on that are causing this pain!

Post # 11
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would have a very open and honest discussion with your doctor or OB about how painful it is. Stick to oral for now I guess!

Post # 12
585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@StefLovesJamie:  def go to a different doctor. i did and they did something about my pain! 

Post # 13
585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@StefLovesJamie:  & no it just burns the bad tissue out. its just two very small incisions and u go home the same day. but if u don’t get it taken care of and if it gets worse that could effect you having kids. 

Post # 14
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That pain sounds worse than endometriosis pain. I’m not sure if you’ve ever seen MTV’s True Life, but I remember seeing an episode about girls who are in excruciating pain during sex- I don’t think some could have any penetration and it wasn’t because it was the typical first painful sexual experience. I cannot remember what the cause was, but I feel like there was mental and physical components to it. Please get a second opinion and make sure your doctor is really listening to your symptoms.

Just looked up the name of the episode, it was “I Can’t Have Sex.” It really sounds to me like what you are describing. Good luck!

Post # 15
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012


I would definitely go to the doctor and tell them what you are experiencing. 

My mom had surgery for her endometriosis several times. She had a lot of scar tissue that was preventing her from having children so they went in and removed the scar tissue. And it worked out because I’m here 🙂 A few other times she had cysts removed.

So it is possible!


Or who knows it could be something unrelated to endometriosis, like vaginismus. Not sure if that would even relate to you or not, but it’s probably a good idea just to check in with a doctor.  

Post # 16
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Does it sound anything like this?


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