(Closed) I don't like people drinking out of my glass

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Tell them you are very OCD about germs, and just ask them to grab a cup so you can pour your drink into theirs.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Honestly I’m not sure there is much way around this without offending them. On occassion you could do the ol’ “Oh I have a terrible cold and I don’t want to get you sick” but that won’t work every time. 

My family is pretty much like this too but it doesn’t bother me. I’m one of those people who figures the more germs I’m exposed to the healthier I’ll be (within reason lol). 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I hate it too and FH is usually the only one that can get away with it. I usually keep my glass within my reach so no one has the chance to drink out of it, but when people try or ask, depending on how well I know them, I just lie and say I’m feeling a bit under the weather and would prefer they not drink after me. 

You don’t have to be assertive, you can just say that you’re not comfortable sharing a drink or food, that it’s not something you’re used to… If they’re respectful they should leave it alone. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

It’s actually a good idea.  There are things that can be passed on by sharing drinks, or at least the government health services was advertising it for a while.  When I was in high school that was how an outbreak of menningitis got spread (along with shared cigarettes) and mono went through a group who shared waterbottles all the time.

Just say you’re not comfortable sharing drinks while people in general.  I don’t think there’s anything offensive about that!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kgirl91:  “So far I just kind of drink half of it before they descend, allow all the  tastes, and then abandon it.  But that’s stupid.  “

I don’t think that’s stupid at all! It’s only a drink. In some ways it’s better than causing offence, and certainly better than catching something.

But that is really weird behaviour by them. How does your SO handle it? If you can coach him to say no to people barging in and sipping his drink, maybe you can too.

p.s. The evil side of me says to make something really disgusting.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Oh, the only people that can touch my drink is my Fiance and maybe some of my family.  But, I’ve never really had random other family (or FI’s family) want to touch my drink.  To me, that is just odd behavior…I guess I would just say that I don’t really feel comfortable sharing unless they grab a fresh straw (although that would still spread some germs, no?).

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Laugh and go “Ugh, no way! I am SUCH a germaphobe!”

That generally gets them to stop! And since it pokes fun at you, they won’t be upset/offended!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

Could you start carrying a couple of plastic straws in your purse?  If they want to share, offer one, and if they ask why, just tell them that you’re a little paranoid about germs. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@kgirl91:  I’m exactly the same!

if its a drink I now say I will save you some and if they want to taste something I will put it straight onto their plate, break some off  or say I will save you some.  I don’t mean to be rude but if someone drinks out of my cup it’s theirs I don’t want it back! 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

FH’s family is very into sharing and I’m like you. I just said “I prefer not to share drinks/food because I don’t have time to get sick!” They now know I don’t share. Just get it over with and say it as nice as you can. If they get offended, they will get over it. It’s not smart to do, and it’s gross!

Post # 13
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6360 posts
Bee Keeper

You have every right not to share food and beverage with people you wouldn’t french kiss!

Can you believe it, I had a female aquaintance who told me she had oral herpes, and subsequently would keep offering lipgloss, asking to share my icecream, etc.? Some people are either very oblivious or want to share much too much!

I simply say “I’m not comfortable sharing drinks/food (as the case may be). I hope you understand!” and I will absolutely abandon something that someone else has helped him or herself to.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I don’t have to deal with that with my own family, since my mom was picky about germs when I was growing up.  DH’s family likes to share, but I broke him of that by reminding him he doesn’t know where other people’s mouths have been (eew!).  If someone asks, I have no problem saying I would only French kiss Darling Husband, therefore he’s the only one I’m willing to share spit with.  

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