(Closed) Kind of tired of his parents hinting about what we should have

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Definitly!  We are planning a church wedding and reception in the afternoon.  We have heard about why we should have it elsewhere (so we can serve alcohol because obviously weddings are about drinking not me and Fiance lol), why we should have “better food”, etc etc.  Now I try to confine what we talk about to things that are finalized so I can say “oh that is a good idea, but I’ve already put a deposit signed contract etc” and change the subject. It saves a lot of time and aggrevation lol.  Just hang in there and do what you and Fiance want.  

Post # 4
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yes, I have and am dealing with it too! You should have a plated dinner, you shouldn’t do buffet. You should have chair covers. 

Unfortunately, I am not the better person, and I’ve blown up in my mother’s face about her unsolicited comments and suggestions.

Hang in there!!!! Just TRY to let it go in one ear and out the other. I KNOW I need to do that!!!  >_< SO aggravating! 

Post # 5
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

it’s tough, everyone feels they should be entitled to a say in your big day.  All you can do is what the pp suggested, just say “that would have been a good idea but we’re tryin to stay within budget and the contracts tied up”.

Good luck though i know it’s annoying x

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

“Thank you for the advice, we’ll take that into consideration.” “we’re still working on those details.”

Or one of my favorites- “FI and I agreed to have a no-wedding-talk weekend.” 

 

Post # 7
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@anonononymous1:  One response I used and it stopped a lot of comments: “I like that idea. Maybe you could purchase/rent/donate it to us” I found a sly way of saying if they want it, they can pay for it!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

“FI and I don’t have enough  money for that.”

That should tell them to shut up or put their money where their mouth is. And yes, even though they’re only paying for the rehearsal dinner, they do get a say in the wedding reception because they’re still helping to pay.

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