(Closed) Kind of upset with grandma :/

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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Daisy_Mae:  better late than never right

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

You can tell your grandma that the earliest forms of Biblical marriage were sanctioned by Jews. Church ceremonies of today are modern so you can get married anywhere and it’ll still be legit in God’s eyes. 

Post # 18
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Newbee

Are you having a priest do the ceremony? Who is your officiant?  Are bible readings a part of the ceremony?  Tell her the pope says mass outside sometimes too besides in a church, and it still counts as a real mass, even though it’s not in a church. Good luck. My daughter is getting married in July and not in a church. She is having a reception on a yacht and getting married on the marina grounds. If it rains the ceremony will be on the boat. The captain of the yacht is the officiant. We are Catholic too, but not practicing. Church now isn’t what it used to be even when I was growing up. It was a very different time when your grandma was growing up. Just respect her opinions, even though you may not like or follow her advice.

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Post # 19
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Bee Keeper

Ignore and carry on as you please. Nothing to talk to her about.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper

Let her be mad if she wants. You’re planning the wedding that you and your Fiance want. Unfortunately, she is not openminded enough to get past your religious differences. 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I get you’re upset but if you dont practice the religion, why do you care if your marriage isnt valid in Gods eyes? I wouldnt say it was a hurtful thing to say, but i would be upset because she gave her opinion in front of everybody. I would just ignore her, you told her no already, she’s set in her ways.

This is not my opinion btw, im Catholic, but i didnt get married in a church. I know my marriage is valid by law and in front of God. Everybody else can have their opinion (and give it) but i dont really care.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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Cait2007:  I don’t think you were being judgmental at all.  You’re upset about the form over substance that you’re grandma would prefer.  It’s pretty hypocritical to think that some religious rules (get married at a church) trump others (no sex outside of marriage/illegitimate children, etc.)

I’m agnostic and I’ve been blown away by how some people pick and choose which religious rules they’d like to apply to their lives .  I chose to be agnostic because I want to have sex outside of marriage, etc.   I choose to believe that a church wedding doesn’t legitimize a marriage anymore than a courthouse one.  But I will never understand how someone can flout all the rules and be okay because they believe in Jesus and got married in a church.  I don’t know if there is a God or not, but I’m pretty sure that if there is, judgments are made on the substance of one’s behavior, not the form.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would be upset, too.  While she probably means well, the way she went about it was wrong.  And I can imagine you being embarassed.  You did the right thing by asking your dad not to share any more details with her – and you not sharing any details with her in the first place.  It is not her business.  Believe me, you don’t want to let this go and have to endure more comments or embarassing situations that you just have to ignore.  That is very hard to do besides.

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

My grandmother told my mother Hobbiton is apart of the occult and wouldn’t be attending if it was held there, I laughed and said thats fine.  $145 less to pay.

Overall, it’s your wedding.  Your DREAM wedding.  Don’t change your dream just because a family member has their knickers in a bunch.  Chances are she could change her mind and it will all blow over after she sees you on your wedding day

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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Cait2007:  Meh, my grandma is the same way. IMO she can be pissed off all she wants. We’re still going to get married where we want, and she knows that. You may just have to be okay with her being stubborn and disagreeing, it’s generally how grandma’s roll lol! (At least in my experience!)

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