(Closed) Kind of wedding related-SIL trouble

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Hmm…I would let this one go. I had almost the exact same thing happen to me, though my Future Sister-In-Law wasn’t staying with us. We had the entire family over for dinner, and they offered to do the dishes. She dropped the serving bowl from Crate & Barrel in the sink while washing it, and it chipped. It has since cracked all the way down the middle of the bowl and is unusable. She apologized, but didn’t think to offer to buy us a new bowl. And that’s fine…accidents happen. I could have just as easily been washing it, and it could’ve slipped out of my hands too. 

I would just chalk it up as an accident and move on. Yes, it’s terribly unfortunate, but what’s to say it couldn’t have happened to you or your husband?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

It was an accident. I don’t think she should have to buy a new one.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

She was probably embarrassed, and it was an accident not an intentional slight.  I’d let it go…whatever the bowl is worth is not worth having a bad relationship with SIL.  Feel bad about the loss of the bowl, but not about SIL.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I know that sucks. We got a beautiful Crate and Barrel bowl from our registry and Darling Husband broke it when we were moving in to our new apartment. Elevator mishap, and whatnot. Not gonna lie, I had visions with this bowl and I was ticked off. Still am a little bit. So I get where you’re coming from. Did she apologize? It does owe an apology since it did mean a lot to you but it was an accident and familial relationships with your in laws are more important than the chip in the bowl, IMO. I would let it go and just try to release the hurt feelings. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with PP. I would just let it go for now. I hate to be cliche but it could be part of pregnancy hormones. I know when I was pregnant a few months ago I would get upset over some things and now I look back and wonder why I was SO upset. I would give it a few days and rethink it.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Double post. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you have to let it go.  Accident happen.  If it’s a Crate and Barrel bown then it can’t be very expensive to replace.  I would just let it go and buy yourself a new one.

My mom recently broke a crate and barrel glass at our house and offered to replace it but I just thought it was obsurd.  It’s an accident.  

 

Post # 10
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3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’d let it go, it’s an accident. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

My “sister-in-law to be” scratched the top of our dresser and broke several spikes off the back of our ceramic iguana. But we let it go. No use arguing or fighting over. 
BUT I would never have her touch of our stuff again!

So if you have an issue with how she does the dishes, don’t let her do the dishes….

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow most definately let it go, it was for pete’s sake just a bowl. Just go buy a new one…

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yeh I would let that one go. Is it possible your really angry because she’s over stayed her welcome? When someone’s stayed to long it sure get’s to me. She was probably embarrassed by your confrontation and didn’t know how to react. It seems like you may have overreacted a little. There are bigger problems and accidents happen!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I also think that you should let it go, but I do understand why you’re upset.  

I’d be pissed that she didn’t mention it and I also think that she should have offered to replace it.  If she had, I would have said “don’t worry about it; accidents happen”, but for that to happen, she should have been forthcoming.  Now, you’re pissed she did it; you’re pissed she didn’t say anything; you’re pissed she didn’t offer to replace it AND you’re pissed because she’s staying at your place (that’s definitely got to be a big part of your anger).

Honestly, to me, the material value of the object wouldn’t really matter.  You care about it, so it has lots of value.  Accidents happen, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t admit to it and apologize when they do.

At the end of the day, you have to let this go. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Congrats on your baby to be!

I think you need to let it go. My roommate has chipped 2 of my C&B dishes (plate, bottom of a cup), AND he scratched a baking pan because he used a knife instead of a spatula (grr.) So believe me, I get it. Yes, she should have apologized, but she didn’t and probably won’t, so you’ll have to move on.

If you want to replace it and if it’s now a discontinued item, check with your store- they’ll be able to check their database and do a transfer, if needed.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

seems like crate and barrel chip easily.    Can you make it a planter?  grow something so when you look at it- you see the thoughtfulness of your Mother and not the clutziness of your SIL?

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