(Closed) Kinda alone – kinda down – wishing one part of the wedding was about the bride

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@claireos:  I’m so sorry that you feel like the process is overwhelming and doesn’t reflect your personality at all! I’m also sorry that your Future In-Laws have been so whiny. I hope you’re able to (pleasantly) one-note them (“Thanks for the suggestion, but that’s not in our budget”) from now on. I also hope that you’re able to carve out some space in the day for things that you really love, even if that’s just enjoying having all your family together.

Also. I just wanted to say that maybe you should check out Groupon and LivingSocial’s getaways. They often have good deals that maybe you and your Fiance could convert into a honeymoon, after you’ve had a little bit of time to save up.

Post # 4
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264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@claireos:  Sorry you are feeling this way! πŸ™ I always feel better if I share how I am feeling with my Fiance. Perhaps that will help you out as well. It’s not that you are ungrateful, you are just feeling the pressures of planning a wedding. Maybe your Fiance could also help deal with his family and their demands. I hope it gets better for you! Hang in there! πŸ™‚

 

Post # 5
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If it isn’t making you happy, why are you even doing it? Have a beautiful elopement and go on a fabulous honeymoon.

Getting married is largely about setting new boundaries for you and your husband as a new family. Yous wedding IS about you – so MAKE it about you.

Post # 8
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1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We are planning a trip south during the winter. Doing a last minute vacation will be much more affordable and by then we can save up the money. Anyways who wants to go south in the summer right.

Post # 9
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This sucks! Is there any way to scale back the wedding a bit, I think with 1k or 2k you can make a trip happen!

Post # 11
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64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You deserve a honeymoon!

Have you considered doing a Honeymoon Registry?  A friend of mine did this because she already had enough dishes, linens, etc.  So instead of registering at Bed, Bath & Beyond, she registered at a website that people can contribute to a couple nights stay at a hotel in Italy, someone else can pay for dinner at a fancy restaurant, someone else can pay for a gondola ride.  People can still buy traditional gifts and bring them to the wedding, but I was surprised to see how many people actually bought stuff off the honeymoon registry.

See http://www.honeymoonwishes.com or google “Honeymoon Registry” for more information.

Post # 12
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1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m really sorry you feel this way. Every couple deserves a little honeymoon bliss. Hve you thought about a staycation? I would splurge a little in a hotel around your area. Order room service, get massages, go all out. It might not be a week and it might not be on a beach, but it will still give you that experience of pure, luxurious bliss.

Post # 13
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1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@claireos:  So why isn’t your Fiance helping or contributing to any of this wedding that he wanted so badly?  And why isn’t he planning and paying for your honeymoon – because being a traditionalist he should know that TRADITIONALLY the groom is responsible for planning & paying for the honeymoon.  So if he’s leaving all the wedding to you he sure has heck better have a killer honeymoon planned and paid for πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@reebee:  +1

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