Post # 1
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Worker bee
im kinda bummed because I planned all these cool gifts for my fil, mil, SIL, SIL boyfriend, bil and Brother-In-Law girlfriend, my mom, his 2 grandma and 1 grandpa, and my grandma and grandpa. I’m really excited to give them the gifts, I love giving this time of year. But I just found out I will be reciving nothing, my mom already said she can’t get anything this year for whatever reason; the presents from my inlaws already came, as they live in another state and mail them in, and they are all addressed to my FI; my grandparents dont send presents ever; and my Fiance and I can’t afford to get each other anything. So I guess I am just a little bummed i will have nothing to open christmas morning while everyone else is opening stuff and we are on Skype with his fam and my mom comes over
Post # 2
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Honey bee
I’m sure you know it’s not really about getting gifts, and I’ll admit I’d be a little bummed too. I’m not expecting to be showered with lavish gifts, but sometimes even a small token says a lot! That said, is there a reason you keep buying for people who don’t want to exchange?
Post # 3
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Worker bee
ya I know its not about the gifts. My fi parents got me a few gifts last year, so I guess I wrongly assumed they get me something this year, so I planned and have already bought them gifts (Wrapped and in the mail so no taking them back and some were hand made by myself) my mother is super hit and miss some years she’ll buy gifts some she won’t but God forbid you don’t get her something all hell breaks lose. And my grand parents only get for grandkids (mind you it’s just me my bro and one other grandkid and she is the only one reciving) under 18 so I kinda have been dealing with that one for some time now but I just get wrapped up in the season and always get them things. i know its not about the gifts it just sucks
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Blueeyedgirl212121: girl, I know this doesn’t make up for it but buy yourself something nice when your expendable $$ recovers. Something just because.
And your fiancé can eat peanut butter and jelly for a few days to get you something. Doesn’t have to be pricey, but you certainly deserve something. Tell him your sad you have nothing to open. He should take the hint.
Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Or screw the hint, just say it outright.
Post # 6
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Honey bee
Blueeyedgirl212121: I agree, it sure wouldn’t make me feel very appreciated!
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Are you sure your Fiance parents didn’t buy you any gifts? seems kind of rude to just send your Fiance presents and nothing for you.
Maybe you can speak to your Fiance and put a $20 limit on gifts for each other? make a game out of it? I don’t tend to get alot of presents either but I do love giving presents and I would be bummed out if i got NOTHING. I know my husband is on a tight budget and I’ve asked for pj’s and cozy socks. hopefully he’ll stick to that and not try to get anything expensive.
Good luck and try to enjoy the Holiday Season.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
How come you can afford to buy all of those other people things, but you can’t afford to get your Fiance anything? How do you know that the gifts addressed to your Fiance aren’t a combined gift for you both? They may just have put his name on the address. You both could just have a very small amount of money each to buy each other something. It doesn’t have to be expensive.
Post # 9
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Honey bee
LittleKBee: + 1 I am a little confused.
Why wouldn’t you budget so you only spend a portion on your family members and have enough left to buy each other gifts?
Post # 10
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Busy bee
bmo88: Lol, Yes I read it a few times, to make sure I was reading it correctly!! Doesn’t really make sense to me!