Post # 1
So, we are having a small backyard wedding. When I say small I mean less than 25 people. Which I’m kind of okay with, but I feel terrible for my fiance. He does not want to invite any of his friends or family…his family doesn’t even know we are getting married. They live across the country and basically he moved away to get away from them. But I still feel terrible. When it came to doing the guest list I wanted to invite all our families and close friends, but he put his foot down and did not want anyone from his family there which I do understand. Then he didn’t want to invite his friends from work and others because he wanted to keep it small and not have too many people there. So basically everyone who is coming to the wedding is my family and a handful of my friends. And I feel terrible that I even invited my friends…so yeah I’m kinda feeling blah…
just needed to say it to someone other than my dog haha
Post # 3
Our guestlist was also very lopsided with the majority from his side, mostly because my side is older/sicker/deader. But the great thing about the wedding is that it’s a day filled with so much love, I never felt like I could only hang out with my side. Everyone really embraces everyone. It was a little bit sad for me planning, too, but when it finally came time for the day, we hardly even noticed. Everyone from both sides was just there to support US, together. I’m sure you’ll have a beautiful day! I hope you feel better. 🙂
Post # 4
@ndwilkerson: I am actually in your FI’s shoes kinda. Everyone coming to our wedding is his family and friends. Since we are doing a Destination Wedding, nobody I invited from my list was able to make the travel.
But it sounds like your Fiance is ok with this. If it’s what he wants then you shouldn’t feel terrible. Maybe you guys can do something with his friends and co-workers after the fact? Maybe gather a handful of them and go out to dinner or something fun?
Post # 5
@vampywolfgirl: That is a great idea…I will definitely run this by him to see if he would like to do an afterparty of sorts!
Post # 6
Are you saying that NOBODY is coming for him? Not one family member? Not one friend? Have you ever met any of his family? Any of his friends?
Post # 7
@2ndtime: Oh I have definitely met his family and I see why he doesn’t want to have a relationship with them. I love his friends and we do hang out with them together occasionally, but they are a different crowd then what my family is used to. So, I can see how inviting them might turn the wedding into a frat party lol, but yeah no one will be there for him 🙁
Post # 8
I am in your FIs boat, for reasons I’ve posted about, Fiance and I recently cancelled our wedding due to my mothers crazy behaviour (its a looong story). So now we are having a quiet wedding in the city we live in. No one from my side of the family is going to be there because we live across the Atlantic, some can’t afford it, others arnt healthy enough and others still just won’t come.
We are going to be going over there after the fact to celebrate with my family. But on the day, its going to be his family and our friends. But its still going to be a wonderful happy day. Because at the end of the day it does not matter who is there so long as you and your Fiance are happy!
Post # 9
So his friends are so untamed that they don’t know how to act at a wedding? Is he is embarassed to be in front of people? I can’t believe that he doesn’t have one friend he wants to be there. I’d feel like he was embarassed to be marrying me.
Post # 10
@ndwilkerson: Phew! I’m glad you have met them. I was a very worried there for a moment that he was hiding you. I still find it hard to believe that he doesn’t want anybody there for him. I think I would find that suspicious.