(Closed) Kinda freaking out…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2748 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@HuskerGirl:  Breathe. Make a spreadsheet with your budget, if you haven’t already, because that will totally help you keep costs in track. You’ve got most of the biggest costs taken care of, so that’s great! Keeping that in mind will help with the calmness as well. You’ve got time to be able to try and save a little extra from what you were expecting, and this will help with the remaining costs. Kudos on being able to stick to your budget!

Post # 4
533 posts
Busy bee

I thought you were stressing as your wedding was next month not next year. 


Take a deep breathe, you have sooooo much time. You’ve got the expensive stuff done. Don’t stress yourself out for the next 13 months, it’ll do you no good. 

Post # 6
2748 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@HuskerGirl:  It’s only natural. This is so much easier said than done, but try not to let them get to you! You know what you need to get done, and you know your schedule. Let it be as water off a duck’s back. People are just trying to share in your excitement in their very weird way. In a way, sure it will feel like all of the time flew by, but doesn’t time always work that way when you’ve got a big project to do? 

Post # 7
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@HuskerGirl:  To be honest, I’m a really religious person, so I guess I worry a bit about how tight my budget is, but I just have faith that it’ll all work out in the end.


However, I do keep track, almost daily, of all the wedding expenses and forecasting our future earnings to compare it all and see where we stand. This has led me to cut corners I didn’t think I could, and to seek out friendors to save money.


Here’s an example of a corner I was able to cut: going from small amounts of fresh flowers, to all silk, to manzanita/wood decor and sparse flowers everywhere else. Technically, slashing the flower expenses didn’t save us money because Future Mother-In-Law already volunteered to pay for and arrange all of our flowers. But by saving her money, it makes it easier for us to ask her for emergency funds if we fall short in the end. 


So my advice? Keep regular track of all of your expenses, for every tiny thing that you buy. You’ll find that if you buy little things like postage, cardstock, tulle, ribbon, etc. here and there over a long period of time, it doesn’t make such a huge impact, and may even be counted as “out-of-pocket” expenses that don’t affect your wedding budget. Think of it like you’re taking $3 from your grocery budget and spending it on ribbon. 


When you’re on top of your budget, when you really own it, it’ll allow you to breathe easier, or force you to get creative with your resources.

Post # 8
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

A big budgeting tip I’d say it really assessing your wants versus needs. I would’ve loved to serve dinner on china but it just wasn’t in the cards. I’m saving at least several hundred dollars in the end by serving on veneerware when scraping, racking, and cleaning costs are taken into account.

Other things I’ve saved on/compromised on:

-No limo – really big expense that I don’t think I’ll miss much the day of

-No appetizers – having a really heavy meal so nobody will go home hungry

-Wine and beer only

-No fresh flowers – making singed organza flowers instead for bouquets, and having non-floral centerpieces

-No chair covers or sashes

-No uplighting


The only thing I really wish I had a bigger budget for was the photographer. His photographs are very traditional and I really would’ve liked someone with a more photojournalistic flair, but I just couldn’t afford it.

Post # 9
629 posts
Busy bee

@HuskerGirl:  When people are telling you about the next 13 months flying by, they may be actually trying to help. However, I understand where your stress is coming from. Just remember you have time. You’ve taken care of a lot of the biggest things, and that’s important. A lot of what you have left doesn’t need to be done right away, you have time. Take a deep breath, you even have time to take a step back for a bit. Remember, a lot can change in the next 13 months. You said you’re finishing school, so in the next 13 months, you may find your full time job, or at the very least be done with school and can work more hours at a part time job, that will help the budget. I’m not saying rely on this, but remember you have plenty of time, and things can change. Keep track of what you’ve spent, and if needed, just take a step back.

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