Post # 1
A lot of you know that J and I are in an extremely long distance relationship – I live in China, and he lives in the States!
Well, I have a few months off school, so in about 36 hours I get on a plane and head to see him (for 7 weeks). I’ll be staying at a friend’s house the night before (NYE) because we’re on the same flight to the States, she has a broken foot, and, well, we have to leave by 6am for the airport. So I have to finish up my packing tonight and toss a few last minute things in tomorrow afternoon.
I always get anxious before traveling, and my stomach has been doing flip flops all afternoon as I’ve been procrastinating finishing my packing.
I’m excited to see him and really excited to get to spend so much time together, but the more I fly, the more that I hate it, and our journey all together will run about 30 hours (3 flights + layovers), which isn’t exactly short, and it’s been 18 months since I’ve been back to the States, and I’m a little nervous about the culture shock and re-entry, especially since I’ll be staying with him in a city I’ve never even visited before, let alone lived in. I don’t know anyone else there except him (DC bees, anyone wanna hang out? he works pretty full time!).
So… mixed bag of emotions and no real food left in the house, haha, isn’t the best combo for my stomach. Maybe getting some of this out onto ‘paper’ will help me calm down. 🙂
Post # 3
((HUGS)) Everything will be fine, soon you will be here and in J’s arms. Just in the words of whitley gilbert wayne RELAX.RELATE.RELEASE.
I totally get anxious before a big event as well. I am sort of glad Christmas is over etc. I cannot imagine how crazy I’ll be before I get married (OMG!!)
Post # 4
Good luck with the trip!!
I lived in DC many moons ago, and really loved eating at Teaism!!
If you have some time, it might be fun to check out with J!
Post # 5
@DD – HUGS!!!! I can totally understand – 30 hours is a loooong time and you’re a much braver woman than I, but you will be fine! The end result will be so worth it. I’m so glad you get to spend so much time with J!! 🙂
I lived in DC a million years ago (okay, 13 years ago, close enough) and I really loved to go to Georgetown and old town Alexandria. DC has a metro system so you’ll be fine getting around to the tourist attractions by yourself. If I lived there, I would totally meet up with you!!
Post # 6
🙁 I just got an email from the airline about heightened security measures, and the baggage restriction is now one 40 pound bag! 40 freaking pounds?!
Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh! I hate flying. 🙁
Post # 7
Eeep! There’s no way I could get my bag down to 40 lbs! Ha, or… all three bags, that is…. I guess I better not travel very far! That sucks. 🙁
Post # 8
I’m sorry about the travel restrictions 🙁 40lbs. is INSANE. As to the long flight…I hear you!!! Buy a trashy book or drink some wine – and try to deny how many hours you’ve been in the sky!
Staying in a city you’ve never been in before might actually help you with the culture shock. The first time I went back it had been 15 months and seeing my hometown that I was very familiar with was really odd. But another time I flew into New York and it was good because it was kind of familiar in terms of culture, but the landscape was different enough that there wasn’t a huge disconnect.
But no matter what…just focus on…HIM! You are going to visit your love for 7 weeks!!!!! I hope you have a safe and not too inconvenient flight and a great time reconnecting with everyone at home!
Post # 9
awww…you’ll be ok hun…just take some deep breaths…i am way nervous every single time i get on a plane but I take some deep breaths and while i’m still nervous a bit …it does help.
Post # 10
you guys are so encouraging 🙂 thank you for all your kind words… I’m going to bed for now, then one more day to wait and go crazy!! I can only imagine how jumpy I’ll be by the time we actually get on the plane (once I’m on the first flight, I’ll be totally fine, haha. Odd, isn’t it, how life works like that?)
Post # 11
daydreamwanderer – Good luck to you! I’m not going to sugarcoat your 30 hours of flying – that is rough. HOWEVER, as far as being in a new place and feeling crazed… First and foremost you will be in a familiar place – your SO’s arms! Concentrate on that and you can get through anything. Goodnight and good luck!
Post # 12
It’ll be AWESOME! Take a good book or a small DVD player. Maybe stock up on some magazines you want to read but don’t usually let yourself (for me, that’s smut, lol). Once you get to DC, it’ll be amazing and you’ll never want to go back! Just relax, enjoy your vacation while he’s at work, explore the city. DC is very easy to get around by yourself. Use your student ID to go to some free or cheaper museums and aquariums. Honestly i think the space during teh day will be good. When you are LDR then see each other all day/everyday (so, if your Fiance didn’t have to work, too), then it makes it tougher to get along….9it’s like too much, too fast. Maybe you can even meet him for lunch!
Post # 13
@DD: I can’t even imagine flying that far, but at least what is waiting on the other side is WELL worth it! You are going to have so much fun – hopefully the flight will just…err…fly by. 🙂
Post # 14
Those long flights are interminable, but hopefully the time will give you something of a cultural buffer between where you’re coming from and where you’re going. I’ve lived in DC, and here are some ideas:
- DC is great for museums, as all the Smithsonians are free and easy to access by metro.The Portrait Gallery in particular is in a very happening neighborhood (by DC standards) and there’s a great cupcake place across the street called Red Velvet. You can bring food into a huge, gorgeous atrium inside the museum, which is a very nice way to spend the afternoon by yourself.
- If you want to go shopping at an American mall, the Pentagon City metro stop has an escalator straight into a huge mall.
- Georgetown is an historic neighborhood that’s also great for shopping, I like going to the Dean and Deluca’s down M Street and have a coffee in their little covered patio area.
- At 6pm every night there’s a free performance at the Kennedy Center, near the Foggy Bottom metro, which would be a great place to go kill some time before your fiance gets home from the office.
I’m sure your fiance will have plenty more neighborhood favorites for you, but DC is a great place to entertain yourself for the day. Just ask him for guidance on which neighborhoods not to wander into, because sometimes the city gets a little rough very quickly and, with it getting dark at 4:45pm these days, you don’t want to feel unsafe.
Post # 15
Take it one day at a time! I get antsy (read: panicky) before air travel too. Just remember to breathe! And try telling yourself that worrying about it will not change what happens (i.e., won’t improve anything). Sometimes realizing that’s true helps me to calm down and realize the ridiculousness of worrying. Also, you will be able to do laundry while you are here! So you will manage to live with the 40 lbs. Just bring lots of stuff to layer, because it’s really cold here right now.
Also, I live in DC! We can hang out. Send me a PM.
Post # 16
HEy Daydream dont worry!!! Things will be OK! And you are seeing the love of your life so just keep that in the back of your mind!!! I live right outside DC in NoVA and would love to show you around if you get lonely! Please PM me if you would like!!!