- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
I have to give some background. I met FI a little over 3 years ago. We lived 35 minutes from each other and coincidentally I lived about 5 minutes from his cousiN who I will call C. He and C grew up like brothers often in the same house being raised by the grandparents. 6 months into dating, c and c’s wife, E, knew about me but we had not met. FI and I are sitting at his house when he gets a call from C asking to meet for dinner in an hour. FI says yes. In the car on the way, something made me ask if he told them I was with him. To which he responds “no, we are going to surprise them since they keep asking when they are going to meet you”. I had a baddddd feeling about this, but what could possibly go wrong? We’ll, we get to the restaurant and FI Spots them but there are 3 people at the table. They brought FI a blind date!!! We will call her M. Can you even imagine how awkward this was for everyone? I’m too stunned to be pissed and I’m actually feeling bad for this poor girl because I’m sure they didn’t tell her that my SO at the time had a GF, me! So I walk right up to her, smile and introduce myself and start talking to her like she is a long lost friend. Just trying to keep her from being mortified. It turned out she was a really nice girl. After FI and C step outside, I’m sure to “discuss” the situation, we all have dinner. After dinner I’m so happy because now I get to get away from these people. But C and E suggest mini golf. I’m trying to be the super cool new GF so I say yes and poor M doesn’t know what to do and since she drove with them I guess feels stuck. So we mini golf and I’m telling you M is a nice girl, but not FI type and I’m not slightly worried.
I talk to FI on the way home and he obviously had no idea they were bringing her and told C it was totally out of line whether I was there or not since we are in a committed relationship. So, not cool. It’s never supposed to happen again….except over the past 2.5 years on the 3 occasions they have asked FI to do something when I was out of town, and he has agreed, guess who they brought with them??? You got it, M!!!!! After the last time FI told them he is no longer doing anything with them when I am not there. I’ve never gotten mad about it. They’ve only met me 3-4 times and apparently don’t like me although they are perfectly nice when we have spent time with them. So whatever. FI gets mad, tells them it’s inappropriate and leaves, calls me and says guess what C and E did again! Why they keep doing it, I don’t know. Why this girl keeps letting them, I don’t know. All I do know is that the last 2 times they called FI to go do something, he refused even when they promised they would not bring M. He told them he us not comfy spending time with them without me, so he’s got my back.
well, Thanksgiving. I am with 2 of my siblings and our dad since this is the first holiday since our mom died. FI was at his nom’s. Guess what his mom tells him. C and E called her when they found out I was not coming to see if they could bring M. And yes, they all know we are engaged!!!!’ Of course FMIL said no way so that was that, but can you believe these people?
I know I should be mad and I have every right to be mad but I’m not, more annoyed and offended. I guess if FI wasn’t acting as he is or if FMIL allowed them to bring her, then yup I’d be pissed. I’m not worried. FI doesn’t find her attractive, she really isn’t his type, and he finds her to be boring and not interesting as well as to have very different goals and values from us. But why won’t they give up? Oh and yes, M is E’s best friend. And E told FMIL she does like me. I don’t see how if she keeps trying to set my FI up with M.
ANYWAY, THIS IS JST SOMETHING I THOUGHT ID SHARE BECAUSE ITS FUNNY EVEN THOUGH ITS NOT. Happy Thanksgiving!