(Closed) Kinda Gross/TMI: Genital herpes from SO's cold sore…

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 17
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@poppygirl16:  I’m not positive as I am no doctor but I believe it is VERY rare to get genital herpes from an oral cold sore.  I believe they are technically two different types of the virus.

Post # 18
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

Not at all uncommon.

As pp have said, use common sense. It’s actually best to use a condom or a dental dam during oral sex, because HSV-1 can be passed on even if there isn’t an active outbreak and never have oral sex if there is a cold sore present. 

I’ve gotten cold sores all of my life and have never transmitted the virus to my husband of 27 yrs

From http://www.webMD.com

How Is Herpes (Oral or Genital) Spread?

HSV-1 is usually passed from person to person by kissing. HSV-1 can also spread from the mouth to the genitals during oral sex (fellatio, cunnilingus, analingus). If this happens, it becomes a case of genital herpes.

HSV-2 is most often passed by vaginal sex and anal sex. But just as HSV-1 can infect the genitals and cause genital herpes, HSV-2 can pass from one person’s genitals to another person’s mouth, resulting in oral herpes.

HSV-2 cannot survive long on a non-living surface, so there is no real risk of getting it from a toilet seat or hot tub, for example.

Using a latex barrier (a condom or dental dam) during sex may protect you or your partner from herpes, but only if it covers the area where the virus is shedding. You should avoid having sex if you or your partner has visible sores on the genitals, and you shouldn’t receive oral sex from someone who has a sore on his or her mouth.

It’s important to know that HSV can be contagious even when no symptoms are visible.


Post # 19
5658 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I can’t speak to the cold sore thing beyond my basic knowledge that has already been shared. But I get uti’s extremely frequently from sex. I really wouldnt worry about it being a major problem, or one at all unless it actually IS one for you when the time comes. I am the only person I know that gets them as often as I do, and those that I know who have had them have only a few times or less. peeing before and after sex does the trick for most people. They won’t go away on their own so if you DO get one make sure you go to the doctor. For pain you can get uristat (or many other urinary Tract pain medication OTC) until antibiotics kick in. 

Ill add as well that in the last month I’ve been eating plain Greek yogurt for breakfast and have not had a single episode of uti symptoms. I have to assume its because of the yogurt and the probiotics. If its a problem for anyone here, or becomes one for you (which most likely it won’t) it’s worth knowing!

Post # 20
9082 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You can also clear up a UTI with alka seltzer. I commonly get UTIs from sex. My method is to clean up before you pee, that way you’re not rubbing bacteria back into your urethra. Wipe off til you’re good and clean, pee, then wipe again. Works like a charm and I haven’t had one in a good long while since adopting the method.

I have cured up a UTI with alka-seltzer. I took 2 tablets in a full glass of water twice a day (morning/night) and drank a lot of water, cranberry juice and cranberry pills (Which I took normally so this was no different.) Cleared it up in two days.

As for the herpes, there’s no real way to prevent it from possibly being spread unless you use a barrier of some sort. Dental dams are pretty popular and they’re not hard to get. As long as he isn’t going down on you with an active sore, I wouldn’t worry too much.

Post # 21
4846 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I got a cold sore for the first time this year. I got another one shortly after. I started taking L Lysine and I have not *knock on wood* gotten another once since.

I also take cranberry tablets for UTI, which I had a tendency to get from night shifts. Apparently whack sleep schedules increase your susceptability to infection. Also have no had another one since. 

Post # 22
3245 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@poppygirl16:  I think the herpes question has been answered quite well. 🙂

As for UTIs– peeing after sex helps a lot. But my favorite preventative is a supplement called D-mannose. It’s a sugar derived from cranberries that has the special property of making the UTI bacteria stick to the D-mannose particles in your urine (as you pee most of it out) instead of the bacteria sticking to your bladder walls, as they do when they cause an infection. It is amazing and has really helped me. It is found at health food stores, or on Amazon (the Now Foods brand is a very good one that I like).




Post # 23
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

As a GYN nurse, I can speak for the Herpes thing.  The HSV 1 is considered “oral” herpes because it likes to live on the nerve that innervates that area.  Although it can be transmitted via oral/genital contact, it doesn’t really like to live on the nerve in the genital area and most people who have HSV 1 on their genitals don’t really get more than one outbreak.  That being said, as a previous poster replied, more than 90% of people have been exposed to HSV 1 by the time they are 40.  Since most people asymptomatically shed the virus, you’ve probably already been exposed to your partners HSV 1 and the likelyhood of you getting it on your genitals is very low.  I hope this is reassuring! 

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