Post # 1
Never – not babe not hun – nothing.
I call him hun, hunny and babe.
He calls me – by my first name.
I’ve talked to him about it and he says he just hates pet names. It sounds like too cutesy and cheesy or something for him.
Why does this mean so much to me! They just make me feel like we’re connected and i’m important to him and i’m more then just what the rest of the world sees me. Like i’m special to him – i’m not “just kate”. but he says they make him uncomfortable.
He’s okay with me calling him hun or hunny but he doesn’t like using those names.
Do i just need to suck it up and get used to being nothing more then “kate”
Post # 3
I like cheesy pet names. I think they’re cute
Post # 4
Mr. 99 isn’t a pet name kind of guy either, it never bothered me because everyone else has pet names for me so it makes him using my name special…and I just love the way he says it, like it’s tastes good or something.
Post # 5
Mr. O uses pet names, but I don’t have a specific nickname. Which used to drive me UP THE WALL because I’m huge on nicknames, haha. But after a couple years, I’ve just accepted that it isn’t going to happen. Oh well!
Post # 6
@Kate0558: Fiance uses pet names but I don’t. I never have, it just doesn’t flow with me. It doesn’t change the way I feel though (and is not a reflection of how much I love someone)
Post # 7
Darling Husband mainly calls me “baby” and I call him “love.”
We have code names for each other, too. Come to think of it, most of the things we say to each other nobody else would understand, we’ve practically invented our own language. Someone listening to us would think we’re nuts.
Post # 8
He calls me a shortened version of my 2nd first name (weird, I know) — so it’s not exactly a pet name, more like a nickname. I call him a non-cutesy pet name most of the time.
We do call each other “baby,” though.
Some people just don’t do pet names because they sound weird or feel off. I don’t think it has anything to do with love.
I think the way you feel about a pet name is how I feel about him calling me by my actual name. The grass is always greener! If it’s something that is super important to you, maybe you can ask him if he can use some more “affectionate” names with you. But really, I just think you need to look at it a bit differently, and not see this as you not being special.
Post # 9
@Sunfire: I think we have our own language too!
SO doesn’t really have any “pet names” for me per se, but he does call me a screwy version of my actual name. It’s basically his pet name for me. Most of the time I call him Love.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema
My man was the same till a couple of months ago when we watched a movie with a character called Puddinghead. He thought this was hilarious and wanted me to start using it as a nickname, so I agreed. But only if he started calling me “Honey”. So I won that one.
Am afraid I have no other advice for you 🙁
Post # 11
I think you need to get over it. That said figure out a different way that he makes you feel special and advise him that he should continue to pay attention to that particular thing so that you feel loved and he’s not forced to say/ do something that isn’t comfortable to him.
Post # 12
I’ve never called people by pet names for the same reason. I just feel kind of ridiculous saying them. Luckily it isn’t an issue for my fiance, because I wouldn’t know what to do.
I don’t think you should make an issue out of it, because what’s the point? It’s absolutely no measure of how he feels about you. “Babe” could be anybody. But you’re Kate, the person he loves.
Post # 13
Some people just don’t “do” pet names. It doesn’t mean he cares for you any less.
Honestly, if he doesn’t “do” pet names, it probably feels fake for him if he were to call you one.
Post # 14
In the almost 5 years I have been with my now husband, he has never called me a pet name. I would get suspicious actually if he started to, like he had done something wrong, lol.
Post # 15
I would feel sad too if my Fiance did not call me pet names. It actually weirds me out when he calls me by my first name. We NEVER call eachother by our first names. Even when i’m mad… its a stern HONEY!
Post # 16
@Kate0558: Same here – it bugs me sometimes, but it’s one of the few things that lately I seem to be able to tolerate!