(Closed) Kinda sorta dreading my wedding.

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@seanmarie: If you are currently having family drama it makes sense that you are depressed/worried/melancholy about an upcoming event that is going to have all your family (and his) together in one place. Don’t add complication to your feelings by feeling like your feelings aren’t right. Its okay to be this way before a family event. Once you realize its ok then you don’t have to feel bad for feeling bad, you know? Then you can take control of your situation– you ARE happy and excited you just are nervous about family stuff. So focus on the good parts. Remember that you can’t control your family and you are not responsible for their thoughts/actions etc. You CAN have a good time even if family is being difficult… let it be like water off a ducks back. You are starting a new stage of your life. This day is going to be very important to people who don’t exisit yet (read your children) and the family you are creating will be your new focus. Not everyone is going to be able to deal with that change well, but change happens without permission and eventually everyone has to adapt to it. And let me tell you what I told a recent bride… If you are married at the end of the day then you had a successful wedding, none of that other stuff matters. So smile and focus on your new life ahead of you. Hope this helps! I worry about family too! So I know how it goes.

Post # 5
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Great advice JaneDomani! I think many of us need to hear that. I can completely relate to you seanmarie. My FI’s and my families are literally from two different worlds, so I am extremely nervous about the wedding. But as my Fiance says, they are grown people and we do not control their actions. Plus, in the end this day is about you and your husband, so focus on creating great memories for the two of you despite what is going on around you.

Enjoy your day! Let us know how it goes and of course share a picture. 🙂

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