Post # 1
So don’t get me wrong I am ecstatic for my sister whom just got engaged three weeks ago. She set her date for a couple months before mine and now my family isnt coming in for my wedding 🙁 We set our date with people’s budgets in mind and gave them plenty of time to save money, well now alot of the family that is traveling in isnt coming to mine. They are going to hers… and I mean I am soooo happy for her but kinda sad too because they are going to hers after already promising to come to mine. I know I sound selfish I understand that but I can’t help but feeling a bit upset that my family would do this. We have already spent so much money and all shes doing is a wedding at a park, nothihg formal at all. ugggghhhhhhhh… ok I’m done
Post # 3
That’s really upsetting! I would be really mad too if my sister or brother got engaged after me but was getting married before me so no one could come to mine. Have you considered talking to her about it? Maybe she doesn’t realize what she’s doing?
Post # 4
@Ms.GoodEarth: She does know, she said she chose the date because she doesn’t want to wait more than a year to get married and if she does it after mine nobody would come for hers :/
Post # 5
Wow I would be pissed! Talk to her about it because what she is doing is NOT right.
Post # 6
I would be upset about this also if there was not a good reason for her doing this?? You cannot stop her choosing whatever date she wishes BUT siblings should really be respectful of each other in situations like this and try to think about what is best for each other and the guests as well…
ETA: Honestly if I was a guest where this happened unless there was a REAL reason for this I would choose to go to the wedding that was set first.. in truth you also have to look at the respectfulness of your guests who have said they will come to yours but now are declining to attend her’s – why are they not questioning her respect to you and themselvs with her decision?
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
@RobandLil0107: Wow, so it sounds like she already knew she was screwing you over by choosing her date. That sucks!! Unfortunately it’s your sister and you pretty much have to suck it up… but you are totally right to be upset. That’s a very selfish move on her part.
Post # 8
Well… I don’t get why it has to be one or the other. That doesn’t really make sense to me.
If she set her date knowing that this would happen, then yes she is in the wrong.
I just don’t get why people can’t go to both weddings. That is odd.
ETA: I’d be ticked at the other family members as well – I would ask for explanations why they can’t attend both weddings…
Post # 9
I would be upset because it’s affecting who can come to your wedding.
Post # 10
That would be upsetting. Have you spoken with the family? Are you sure they won’t attend both? That’s not cool to me. I would talk to her and tell her how sad you are that they won’t be able to go to your wedding if she has hers then.
Post # 11
@canarydiamond: Alot of our guests are coming from all the way across the country and with weddings three months apart they aren’t willing to travel for both. My parents are in the middle of this as they live 3000 miles away and don’t know which one they should attend
Post # 12
I don’t understand being mad at your sister. You should be mad at your inconsiderate family members!
Post # 13
She only got engaged 3 days ago and your family has already worked out all of the logistics about traveling even though its a year away?
theres still a ton of time for things to change.
I don’t understand why they would have to choose one or the other. Talk to them about this
Post # 14
Yeah, that is pretty screwed up, especially if your parents are having to decide. Can your Mom talk to her about this? I’m usually on the side that it wouldn’t be a big deal but if it keeps your entire family from coming to yours, there is a big problem. I’m so sorry sweetie! *HUGS!*
Post # 15
I’d be upset, too. I’m sad for you, having to deal with this. Big Hugs!!!
Post # 16
I’m sorry guys I thought I put weeks, she got engaged three weeks ago and like I said its a huge cost since we both live in California and all of our family lives in the east coast (ie. Pennsylvania, New York). She jokingly said “Good thing you got everyone saving for the trip over here already” and then just laughed. THEN she asked me to be a bridesmaid -_-