(Closed) Kinda upset (venting)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I be upset
    You are right, she should have rethought her date : (107 votes)
    87 %
    Let it go, they don't matter : (7 votes)
    6 %
    You are being ridiculous and should just be happy for her : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Other (please explain) : (6 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    That’s really upsetting!  I would be really mad too if my sister or brother got engaged after me but was getting married before me so no one could come to mine.  Have you considered talking to her about it?  Maybe she doesn’t realize what she’s doing?

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Wow I would be pissed! Talk to her about it because what she is doing is NOT right.

    Post # 6
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    513 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would be upset about this also if there was not a good reason for her doing this??  You cannot stop her choosing whatever date she wishes BUT siblings should really be respectful of each other in situations like this and try to think about what is best for each other and the guests as well…

    ETA:  Honestly if I was a guest where this happened unless there was a REAL reason for this I would choose to go to the wedding that was set first.. in truth you also have to look at the respectfulness of your guests who have said they will come to yours but now are declining to attend her’s – why are they not questioning her respect to you and themselvs with her decision?

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    @RobandLil0107:  Wow, so it sounds like she already knew she was screwing you over by choosing her date.  That sucks!!  Unfortunately it’s your sister and you pretty much have to suck it up… but you are totally right to be upset.  That’s a very selfish move on her part.

    Post # 8
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    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Well… I don’t get why it has to be one or the other. That doesn’t really make sense to me.

    If she set her date knowing that this would happen, then yes she is in the wrong.

    I just don’t get why people can’t go to both weddings. That is odd.

    ETA: I’d be ticked at the other family members as well – I would ask for explanations why they can’t attend both weddings…

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would be upset because it’s affecting who can come to your wedding. 

     

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    That would be upsetting. Have you spoken with the family? Are you sure they won’t attend both? That’s not cool to me. I would talk to her and tell her how sad you are that they won’t be able to go to your wedding if she has hers then.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I don’t understand being mad at your sister. You should be mad at your inconsiderate family members!

    Post # 13
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    578 posts
    Busy bee

    She only got engaged 3 days ago and your family has already worked out all of the logistics about traveling even though its a year away? 

    theres still a ton of time for things to change.

    I don’t understand why they would have to choose one or the other. Talk to them about this

    Post # 14
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    427 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yeah, that is pretty screwed up, especially if your parents are having to decide. Can your Mom talk to her about this? I’m usually on the side that it wouldn’t be a big deal but if it keeps your entire family from coming to yours, there is a big problem. I’m so sorry sweetie! *HUGS!*

    Post # 15
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    9887 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’d be upset, too.  I’m sad for you, having to deal with this.  Big Hugs!!!

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