(Closed) Kinda upset (venting)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I be upset

    You are right, she should have rethought her date

    Let it go, they don't matter

    You are being ridiculous and should just be happy for her

    Other (please explain)

  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I dont think its fair to expect your sister to wait till after jan 2014 to be married.  That is a long time.  Just try to be happy for your sister and make the best of the situation

    Post # 18
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    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    That sucks. 

    Could you and your sister talk, and maybe do something the same weekend, to make it easier for the out of state guests to attend both? 

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

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    @RobandLil0107:  Now see I would be pissed off at that. She knew people were saving for yours and now she is going to get the benefit. Is there anyway perhaps you could move the wedding closer to your family? If thats not an option is there perhaps a way to have a sort of hometown celebration? Like have an engagement party closer to where your relatives are?

    You cant stop her, and sounds like she knew exactly what she was doing. She knew that it would be a nightmare if people could only come to one.

    Post # 21
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    That’s a pretty crappy situation to be in.  On the one hand I can totally understand you being upset.  But on the other… you’re not getting married for amost another year and a half, if she were to do it after you, that would mean waiting 2 years or more.  I can understand someone not wanting to wait that long.  I cant believe taht your parents would pick only one, that’s rediculous.  My SIL got engaged 5 months after us and set her date for 7 months later…. 3 months before us also.   None of the family had issues going to both.  Well, their parents had to cancelled a planned vacation to attend hers, but it can certainly work if people were willing to try.

    Post # 22
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    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Usually I’m all about relzxing and enjoying the proximity of family weddings, but the fact that your parents have to choose which sister’s wedding to attend? Not cool. At all. And the little bit you’ve said about your sister’s response seems to indicate she’s doing this to actively spite you, which is also absolutely not OK. I think you’re going to have to get your parents involved in this one- first, determine how far apart they feel the weddings would have to be for them to be able to attend both, and then to help negotiate which sister(s) need to move their date(s). Unless there’s any chance either of you can help pay for their ticket?

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Hmmm…. this is a tough situation.  On one hand, it’s super upsetting that she chose a date before yours because it means some family can’t attend both weddings.  I would be annoyed and upset about this too.  HOWEVER, she did pick her wedding date 3 months before yours which is a good amount of time in between both weddings.  Plus, I don’t think she should have to wait over a year and a half to get married just because you got engaged first.

    I would talk to your family about why people can’t attend both.  I would also talk to your sister and explain the problem.  Maybe she wouldn’t mind moving up her date a few more months to give guests a little more breathing room.

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Can you get married back where your family is?

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I would have both weddings on the same date that way the family can see both. It is done all the time in other parts of the world

    Post # 27
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    1130 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @RobandLil0107:  Given that, why would anyone choose her wedding over yours?

    Post # 29
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    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    The same thing happened to me but it ended up being a blessing… we spent less money and could actually hang out with our family at the first wedding!

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @RobandLil0107:  With someone like that, I’d find a reason for them to snub me.

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @RobandLil0107:  Um…can you move your wedding so that it’s before HERS? Mwahahha.

    I’d actually try to look at East Coast venues…how much family does your fiance have in California?

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